I went 20 days no contact before accidentally bumping into my ex. We were together for over 3 years and were still friends with benefits for a couple months post breaking up. I went NC after she said she didn’t want benefits anymore.
I stupidly called the ex after seeing her. She was upset at me for ignoring her calls and messages. Anyway, the next day she asked if I wanted to get dinner. We went out. Got along ok. The night before I said I still wanted more than being friends. After dinner we talked about things, she was crying saying she missed me but was still having bad memories about arguments we had and that she didn’t think things would work because of her family etc. I asked to try again and actually make an effort but she looked really torn. I wasn’t like begging as after NC I kinda feel like I could take it or leave it, but nothing to lose now so I might as well try. We made out in the car for half an hour before she had to go.
I’m not really sure what to do now. She still has negative associations about the relationship that she hasn’t let go of. I’m not sure whether to go NC for another short period to see whether she can get over it or just stay in touch as friends and meet up occasionally. I’m also working on a really limited time frame as I’m moving cities soon and she goes away in a month… maybe NC after I’ve moved?