@Lisa26 Thats a good quote and I like it
Yes NC is hard, the same condition happen to me too,lost weight and the other, I even got sick because of the stress and what I have to do now is thinking about myself. I do know that I need this broke up to find myself again and to love myself properly
@samsmith12 hi, I agree with Lisa26 that you should stop that stuff so bith of you can figure out what do you really want,is it going back or the other.
And for the thought that NC is giving our ex a time to get over from us, I dont really know. For me the hardest part of NC is all the thought about him that running around in my head. About do he think about me?Why he do that?Where is his mind?And the other. Thats thought is eating my soul.
so update, ex came into my office today about work stuff and we worked as a team and it was good how well we do stuff as a team, that is all but feels good been long time.
I also looked him in the face for the first time for ages as it was hard and just came to me how i fell inlove with him.
I think he is flirting to you, but lets hope for the best and expect for the worst so we can still hold our feet on the ground when there is no thing come.
Btw will you just accept him if he try to get back to you??
Yes i know what you mean, i wont look to much into itā¦
We was just having a laugh a minute ago both laughing and just reminds me how much of a laugh we had so i hope he sees this.
Since he did that in the kitchen we have been talking about work stuff and been laughing at eachother so nice change to be honest.
Erm i wouldnt jump at the chance, i am not desperate for him, i want him i dont need him.
IF we got back together we would do some talking about stuff and take it slow and have a completely new relationship but his got some apologizing to do
Iām bit of a weird mood, yesterday made me realise I miss him.
So Monday was first time we seen each other for 2 weeks we havenāt spoken he hasnāt flirted or nothing hardly seen him this week. Today I went in the kitchen to wash my cup up he comes up behind me and blows in my hairā¦ Then said he didnāt have any paper to write stuff down for me, he said u took all the sticky notes I pack it away move it for you and I donāt get any, I was like that what you men are here for, we both laughed made me realise why I liked him. Anyways I left 5 minutes early and everyone sees me go and he makes a comment " oh I see ur leaving early so we can lock up".
I donāt know what any of this means, if Iām looking to much into it or even if it means anything.
He cannot expect us to be friends on how he treated me.
Out of curiousity, for those who remained friends on social media with their ex, did you allow them to still see when you were online during NC? Also, did you continue to post things for them to see like going out with friends, etc.?
Iām on day 4 after we broke up two weeks ago (last week was her birthday, texted her happy birthday and met her Monday to tell her I accepted her decision and if she ever wanted to get together again to give me a call). Feeling somewhat better now, I started guitar lessons this week, going to start running next week (just getting over some ankle injuries), and also will be volunteering at a local animal shelter and horse rescue farm with some of my free time. So Iām definitely taking care of myself
Since yesterday Iāve been too much thinking about him bcs yesterday is the day he celebrated Paskah and usually he is in his hometown having time with his family. So I thought about what his family reaction about the broke up is, and its really tiring for me. Last night I posted some pict and his sister liked it. Its normal for some people, but not for me bcs she dont follow me, Iām the one who following her. So it provoke my curiosity and the ātoo much thinkingā habit, and today I woke up with a fast heartbeat, like its gonna blow up
@Lisa26 maybe you have to stop thinking about what he think or what will happen because it doesnt worth anything, only become a burden to you.
@mechanical_penguin86 Im not in that condition bcs he blocked me in the social media. There were some time when I also blocked him but just for few days bcs I thought it such inmaturity act, so I unblocked him. I just posted what I want to post, but there is no post that mean for him, like Kevin said post everything that world can enjoyed and keep all the sad to ourself.
Thats good for you, I hope you can be better with your new activity
So today back at work.
I walk in and he said hi lisa how are youā¦ i answer then he starts talking to me about his dad and mum, his had problems with his mumā¦
I just had to bring him back from site and was talking about work and his personal life, how his broke with money he needs extra work etc.
Day 4 and feeling down. Three days of texting from my ex. A sappy love song, a pic of someone with her at a bar with a caption happy birthday and yesterday a message that she wasted 12 months of her life on me. Iām holding strong just trying to figure out the nice to nasty messages.
Day 7 and itās killing me. I was the dumpee but the dumper has contacted me 4 times. I donāt respond but they range from nice to shitty. Itās weird but I am as worried about getting a text as I am about not getting one. WTF!
Iām on day 9 of NC and holy F! It feels like itās been a lifetime It sucks when you go from talking 24/7 to BOOM. Nothing. Itās terribly hard on me. (If you havent read about my situation, you can read it, i posted it in a seperate forum) Everytime something happens (good or funny etc) i want to text him and tell himā¦ only to remember. Wait! I canāt
He hasnāt texted me either since he broke up with me. However, he does check my snapchat stories on which i appear happy. (although im far from it in reality)
I wish NC would get easier. Tomorrow Iām going to text his mom Happy mothersday out of respect to her, because i do LOVE his family and his family loves me <3
Iām on day 2, holding up strong so far. Heās contacted me once already trying to see how Iām doing, but Iām dedicated to this and I want to get myself to a happier place before I try to talk to him again.
I am struggling with hope though. We had a smaller breakup prior to this big one, where we kinda not officially got back together shortly afterwards. We went to a party together and he saw me chatting with another guy and FLIPPED, which makes me think he might still have very strong feelings for me, because in my previous experience when Iāve fallen out of love I was extremely happy to watch my ex find somebody else. Now itās the other way around.
He told me he doesnāt love me anymore, does anybody think an outburst of jealousy immediately prior to breaking up implies that he does?
