I’m here to tell you that NC does work sometimes. Of course every situation is different, but in my case it worked. I didn’t even need to send the letter. 7 weeks after she dumped me, almost 4 weeks after our last contact, she called to tell me she really misses me and didn’t want to regret not at least trying. She was worried I had moved on and wouldn’t want to give her a second chance.
In my case, she texted me a simple happy birthday, to which I said thank you, I’m having a good day
The I noticed on her facebook feed, she was posting several things, including pictures of her dogs. After careful consideration, I thought this might be an attempt to see if I would respond. I wrote a generic comment about the dogs and left it. When she didn’t like it respond, I was kicking myself for breaking NC. But later the next day, I got the “can we talk” text.
We are going on a date tonight to talk how e are to start over.
It was a long painful process, but hopefully this will make us a stronger couple going forward s neither of us want to go through that again and have already vowed to do whatever it takes to grow the relationship, including couples counseling.
Thank you to anyone who offered support and words of encouragement.
