Hey guys,so I’ll tell my story, and try to keep it short.
So me and my ex fiance broke up December 14th, there was a lot of stress from trying to buy a new house, and the house we lived in was her mothers. This part made it relatively hard to do no contact since I had a lot of things in the house, so I didn’t get moved til around January 11th because not only was I moving out but I was moving states to be closer to family.
But I had to go back up to NC a week later for a funeral, my step sister passed away during the week I was down in Florida. So me and my ex stayed together every night, went on dates to a spa, everything.
She wanted to see me, and I gave in. I got back to Florida on the 26th.
So we agreed to not talk for 30 days after i went back to Florida.
I tried ignoring her, but she would get me to talk inevitably, so we settled to start it when she moved down to Vero on the 3rd of February.
Well of course that didn’t stop her. She messaged and called me every day
And I ignored her for a few days, and had to look up how to handle texts from an ex during no contact.
Another site said to just be short, but making it seem like your having a good time then cut it off.
Which didn’t work, it just make it harder for me, and it was still contact.
Plus I’d eventually give in and skyper her.
But she’d tell me she loved me, be all cute etc. But of course not want to fix things.
I do this until the 13th because it gets to me bad, so I do block her on everything for 8 days.
Stupid me unblocks her and within 2 hours she calls and texts me, and I dont answer.
She also unblocks me from her insta stories (she had me blocked for whatever reason)
I get curious and look, and a guy brought over champagne to her new condo.
And I guess that was my breaking point, because I was doing fairly solid until this point.
All the emotions hit me like a truck
I said things I shouldnt have
I messaged the guy telling him what she was doing to me while talking to him
All my choices were awful choices, and it took a day or 2 to level my head and gain control again.
I’m not sure if theyre dating, but I had mentioned something about sex in my rage, and she replied “are you hacking my instagram, I dont get it”
so I’m guessing she was planning sex with the guy through instagram messages or something
because she basically just admitted it.
But that conversation took place like 12 days after she had been telling me she loved me everyday
skyping, sending dirty photos etc
So now I’m not even messaging her back if she messages, I’m pretty hurt from the crap.
I’m just wondering if this is even a rebound
and could it be saved at any point
or did I let it go on too long, and this is the real deal
The new guy is a 33 year old doctor, makes great money, owns his own home already etc.
I’m 27, still getting established, and have a ways to go to get to that level.
But let me know guys
thank you