Day 12 of NC. Is it a good idea if I deactivate my fb acc? I keep checking his fb and stuff and I cant help not doing it so
Ya or you could simply block him! I did that and it helped me 
it also makes them curious
If its not too much to ask can you check out my post? https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/is-it-ever-really-over/
Thanks for the reply.
I changed my mind that I’m not deactivating my fb acc, it will be better remaining indifferent I guess. Today is day day 13 of NC…nothing I got 
If u still stalking thats mean u still needy … Why u doing NC ?
uaing NC means u want to get ur self back before anything coz u have lost power … After 1 month or few weeks whenever u feel better and think more wide about the stration then this is what u need
Hi I’m on day 30 and it does get easier I was a mess to start but now ive settled down, yes I still think about her but I’m living my life. Hang in there it will get easier
My ex deleted me off facebook after a week of being broken up. It was the best thing he could of done because I was obsessively checking his facebook and coming up with explanations for things he was putting on there. since he has deleted me, I have no idea what is going on and for me, that’s better. I don’t have to sit here and second guess anything.
I agree the NC is to make yourself better, it isn’t for your exes benefit, it is for yours. Use this time to grieve, get strength back and make yourself better. As Gingerone said, at first you are mess, but after a while it does get better.
@JeanValins @Gingerone @KD1988 Thank you for your comments, I appreciate them.
I thought deactivating my acc will be good for myself as I cant stop myself keep checking his page but then I’ve decided to remain active because if I deactivate he will think its because of him and it would seen as weak thats how.
He is leaving the country in a few days maybe he already did I don’t know, there is no hope in fact cuz he doesn’t want to commit, doesn’t think about marriage at all. He told me if I ever change my mind then go alongwith him, I said I will not change my mind for sure, this was when we talked last time 13 days ago. I just cant believe hes going away just like that easy and leaving me behind as I have meant nothing to him. He has mentioned about that maybe some self sacrifice should be made but he did not do anything at all, so selfishly going away.
Its just so sad to let it go. I let him ruin my life but nothing changed in his life, hes just going with his own plans so selfishly and all his sweet words were in fact just lies and for running around.
I have to do a new start for myself I guess…sigh**
that’s a tough one because he is probably hurting too that you won’t go with him? I appreciate that you want commitment from him like marriage, but you can’t force that on someone. And a commitment is him asking you to go with him? That’s how I would see it anyway.
If you deleted him off facebook, that would not make you appear weak. If you are doing things to better yourself, this can’t be seen as a weakness. If he said anything about it then you would just simply tell him that you need some space and time.
@KD1988 No I dont think hes hurting that much because he asked me to go alongwith him just like that just for saying it because he knows that I wouldnt go there just like that I dont have a job I got nothing there and I would deal with the visa procedures and all. The job is for about 8 months or something then there is a possibility to come back here together he said but I’m sure he knew I wouldnt go just like that, also he knows my intention is marrying him and he almost yelled at me he doesnt want to get marry now but it doesnt mean he doesnt love me.
I didnt think about deleting him from my fb, I just wanted to deactivate my acc cuz I’m weak and I keep on checking his page, couple of days ago his friends from work tagged him that they arranged a dinner for him since hes leaving the country and he seems all chill and cool, keep adding new people.
It was kind of ultimatum, if you marry me then I will come alongwith you but I know and aware of that you dont want to, so I understand that and we should go on our own ways and he was kinda upset but quickly accepted to go on our own ways, he seemed cool so that drove me crazy and I started talking nonsense and said some bad words but then told him I’m sorry and all I said was out of anger and I was exteremely sad thats why… this was also our last talk over the phn. @KD1988
I told him not to call me ever again after sometime, told him I’m so weak and so very upset now but it shall pass so don’t ever try to contact me after sometimes pass and I feel better. I will not accept you with anyway you come up with so dont ever think of calling and he told me not to condition myself over it. So I gave him the message that I will not be there waiting for him whenever he decide to return and makes up his mind about things, so what if not…
@Malinda he has put up a defence barrier because he is hurt. That is why he is acting cool and not hurt. Ultimatums are never good lol. But I understand why you did it.
Yes I think you should just delete him off there. I still look at my exes page every now and then but can only see if he has changed his profile pic. I can’t drive myself mad anymore looking at it. It does help.
@KD1988 He is damn good at acting so cool when hurt, you can never really tell if hes hurt… sometimes I’m dreaming about getting lost somewhere far from everybody for a month and when this feeling passed then I appear… He has all the attention of the girls around him its unbearable :S !
I will check your story now @KD1988
@Malinda I think they are all good at acting like they don’t care! It’s their way of dealing with it. I remember the first few days after I kept saying to my ex “how can you be so ok about this?” and his reply was simply “I don’t know what you want me to say to that but I am”. Now I feel more ok, and I think he is feeling less ok.
Just give it some time, really try and use the time to sort your own head out, remember, you are number one
You put a smile on my face thanks! This 13 days of nc was like months passed to me as I was expecting him to call me or email and text me but nothing, but this time its different cuz he knows that I’m determined this time and I will not give an inch so he most probably accepted it and moving on his own way which is not really hard for him at all I guess… I hate him I missed him and those feelings come and go, sometimes I feel like I can move on and make a new fresh start and sometimes I miss him like anything and remembering the good times then again hate him for leaving me behind this easy and loosing me which shows he doesnt give a sht at all… I want to be old me fun, crazy living the moment cheerful, goes with the flow…I do want to share the rest of my life with him, he never really understood this or he is not really in love with me thats what and its so sad…
You’re doing good by the way and it seems like you have a good chance @KD1988
@Malinda, the emotions you are feeling right now are because it has only been a little while since you broke up. Have faith in time healing… I know it SO annoying to hear that, but honestly, it is the best thing for you. You will get clarity, you will see what went wrong. But most importantly you can start to improve yourself. I don’t mean physically, but mentally. Do whatever you can to make yourself feel better. I have bad days, Only the other day I had a really bad day. But I thought about things clearly, I remembered why I was doing this and I feel better again. I have forgiven myself, and that’s truly brilliant to do!
I don’t know if there is any chance there, he won’t act on anything he feels. BUT whatever happens, happens (or doesn’t happen lol) I know I would of tried my best.
@KD1988 Yes you’re right and your words mean a lot to me, I know them all but hidden I guess cuz I’m hurt and hearing them from someone makes me realize and understand better also encourage me. I should try hard to focus on myself and improve thats a must otherwise I will be all miserable like this.
I’m just afraid of that feeling that I might lose him and forget all about him during the focus on myself improvement which is funny and kinda awkward @KD1988
Anyway in my situation there is no way I can step back though cuz I said such things irreversible, I have to stick to my decision so its all upto him about us getting back together which seems almost imposible so I will just have to accept and go on with my life.
sobs** (well not really right now)
@Malinda that feeling of losing him is something we are all going through, so everyone can relate to that. It’s just having faith that the right thing will happen at the right time. That’s how I try to see it anyway. I would love nothing more than my ex to ring me and say I want you back, but the likelihood of that happening is very slim. So I just have to carry on doing what I am doing, improving myself, making myself get out and do things. The 30 days NC is really only effective if you actually do something within that time to help yourself. If you do it and don’t try to help yourself, then if it came to it, there would be no difference in you whatsoever and it would be pointless. You say you said things that are irreversible, however the other point of the NC is that it gives your ex time to forget the negativities that surround you. this is why time is so important in this horrible game.