Is there any hope left?

Here goes

It was going great, but there was always her hesitation. One day she texted me that she wasn’t sure about us so I told her we shouldn’t be together if you’re not sure ,the next day she sent me a friend of mine saying that I should’Ve stuck by her and that breaking off wasn’t the way for her to be sure. She also once asked for a break for like 3 weeks to assess the situation. The next day she called saying she missed me she just called to say that and when i asked how long was the break supposed to be she said a week. The day after that she told let’s forget about the whole break thing. Other than that when we were together it was really great we were intimate she told her mom about me and introduced me to her friends we said I love you we were talking marriage and a future together and we were talking all day long.

The Break up. in our pre last fight, she did the whole not sure thing again and we stopped talking for 2 weeks but there was this issue with our group of friends so I called her. In that call first i asked about her she then broke down and started crying about how no body cared about her I comforted her with taking notice not to say that I specifically care, we then talked about our relationship, she said how whenever we’re going good she just feels the pressure and just stops it or something happens so i asked how do you want us to be around one another she said friends so i said ok but then she started telling me about this other girl in our group and that she feels bad about us acting close i ended that phone call telling her friends don’t get jealous when we talk to other people. The next day we went out only us and it turned into a date.

In a week she suddenly told me she wanted us to stop talking at least for now. We stopped talking and then we started to talk a bit again after like a month we were getting back to our usual rate one night she even said i love you so much when you help me like that. Once I was feeling down so a friend asked me what was wrong so I told him what had happened the whole thing, so he goes texting her “what’s wrong with you?” “Stop leading him on” “make a decision right now” she said nothing i want nothing. He texted me and said all that I was devastated. She did too asking why he came to her and what had i told him and saying that our relationship is between just us and it’s over.

Post break up. She texted me a couple of times once saying sorry about what had happened and her way and the other time saying that she was happy that i was happy and not sad and depressed so I laughed and told her it wasn’t worth it she then texted me goodnight and didn’t even read the rest. She’s told a couple of friends that it’s over and that she’s moved on. She’s even implied that she has a crush on someone else.

Here it gets tricky. She’s avoiding me in college. She keeps talking about how miserable she is on our group chat. We were texting once and she said how much she missed talking to me but she’d always hesitate because she doesn’t want to upset me. Someone pointed out to me that her whole crush thing started when i was getting close to another girl and I recently found out that the whole crush thing is nothing serious just fooling around. She gets flirty sometimes playing footsie under the table catching her hand in my hair. That girl I was getting close to, we were once sitting around and she passed by and my ex started going like come on come on go talk to her, I was confused that day was she jealous or just being mean. She did it again when I was talking to another friend she first came in complemented my perfume and how she still loves it and then she did the whole thing again.

Is it over like a 100%? Some friends are telling me to move on and that’s what is best but I cannot I love her I really do. I act cool and as if am A ok in front of her but I feel dead. A friend of mine keeps telling me that it isn’t over that she’s just not ready for something serious and that she implied so. He’s saying that right now she just wants to flirt around have a different crush every once in a while but nothing serious, he thinks she stopped us talking altogether because when we talk we always go on to a full blown relationship. He keeps telling me to put it out of my mind and that she’ll come around. Can it work again? After what she said after saying she’s moved on.

Maybe she likes breaking up, meaning she likes going out, having a relationship and then breaking it up and then going back and breaking up again. She likes being jealous and playing the back and forth game.

You know her better than anyone else, do you think that is the case? If it isn’t, why does she keep doing this? Would you ever go back and forth the way she is?

Why do you think she is doing this? It doesn’t seem like it is over but it might be that she likes the on/off relationship and that’s what she wants to continue. If she continues like this over and over, do you want to continue with the relationship?

What was her previous experience with relationships, did she ever have a serious one? What was her parent’s relationship like?