My boyfriend and I broke up about four months ago, but I only found this website a while after. He’s been with a new girlfriend for a little under a month, who I’m pretty sure and incredibly hopeful is just a rebound, as we had been together for 2 and half years. I’m currently on day 25 of NC. During this, I had been updating my Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr, and Snapchat story slightly more than usual, of course to put selfies of me looking my best, or me out with friends and so on. On Snapchat, you can see who has looked at your pictures. Depending on the day, my ex would look at all of them rather quickly.This last Saturday, I went to the city for the day with my best guy friend, and took pictures of course, and put them on my Snapchat story. Throughout the day, he was always very quick to look at them, always within the hour, which is strange for him, as he is barely on his phone. Since then, he hasn’t looked at my story once, but he has looked at all of the stories my friend has put up. We’re guessing this is because looking at my story made him miss me more, especially since we haven’t talked, and then this past Saturday he got jealous and is stopping himself from looking, so he can try to not miss me anymore and be with his new girlfriend. He hasn’t blocked me or unfriended me on any social media, but that’s because he doesn’t want to seem like suddenly he’s missing me, and just not looking at my Snapchat story or any other social media is more subtle. Is this possible? Is no contact working with making him miss me? Or am I just getting my hopes up?
I would say it is DEFINITELY working. I’ve been through the same thing with snap chat. I remained my ex girlfriend’s friend on there for awhile. But then seeing her and knowing what she’s doing made me miss her way more than I already was so I stopped looking at them. He’s clearly avoiding looking at your stories for the same reason. Keep doing what you’re doing. However, just because he’s missing you doesn’t mean he’s ready to get back. I’d say give it a little more time then reach out whenever you think is best! Or if he does first, even better. But yes, NC is working.
that’s so encouraging! yes, I realize getting back together, if it were to ever happen, would definitely be a while down the road for us, especially with his new girlfriend and his time away and how he left, I need a long time to heal enough to trust him the same way again. but I do love him, and would love to think we’ll have another chance one day, and knowing that he’s missing me even a little bit is so encouraging! thank you!
I’m actually going to probably have to be seeing him in a couple weeks one day, because our colleges spring breaks overlap, and I’m kind of nervous for that. I probably shouldn’t bring up noticing him not being on my snapchat anymore, right?
Same as @Kahlad1031 I recently have been more active on social media…especially instagram.
And I just got unfollowed by my ex on instagram this week 
He remained all my other social media contacts just not instagram. I posted pictures on a daily basis. Not a lot of selfies but a lot about lives. aka what I ate, my gym fitness look, and the EDM show I went with my friends.
we haven’t really talked since the beginning of the month. And we broke up in January. so I guess I kept NC until yesterday…
Gosh I cannot help it. I invited him to my ceremony. He congratulated me but didn’t response whether he would show up. And it turned out that he didn’t.
I am really sad now. I am afraid to lose him forever. Since he’s not only an ex to me but my best friend during the past two years.
Guys!! Please help. Is my ex moving on really? What should I do?
I’m just guessing here, so don’t take it as fact, but I think he definitely does miss you. he’s just trying so hard not to, and he knows seeing you in person would make him miss you more. he probably is trying to make it where he can’t get back those feelings he once had for you, because he feels like he’d be weak or a pushover if he came back. that’s how guys are. don’t push him, just subtly and every so often pop back into his life to say hi or whatnot so he has no chance to forget you. but make sure you have a long enough period of no contact first.
@kahlad1031
Definitely do not let him know that you noticed his behavior at all. That would only make you look like a desperate stalker. Just stick to the plan and don’t mention your past relationship - I think you’re doing well.
this is so encouraging! thank you! hopefully when we see each other I’ll be able to continue doing well, to further my progress. Hopefully I’m able to at least succeed in making him miss me more than he wants to be with his new rebound girl. Any ideas on how to make him miss me a little more when I see him?
Hey Kahlad1031,
I’m wondering how you’re doing now, because I’m exactly in the same situation as you have mentioned at the moment. Did your ex come back? I do need help since I still love him and I’m depressed. Hope you can post your story so I can learn how to deal with this. Thanks.