is caring loving?

My ex clearly cares for me does that mean she loves me?

But also she is mad at the fact i told her i loved her because she is in a relationship with her rebound does that mean i will never win her back? Or that its working?

Help me and ill help you

I consider care to be a form of love and even though you said that her feelings for you will still be there shes gone onto some one else to still feel an emotional connection but with rebounds they never last and even the fact that she was mad is a form of love because if she had no feelings for you then shed ignore it and wouldnt care but if she was openly mad at you for it then it goes back to care and hence forth love and feelings she may feel that shes messed up and venting her frustration of not getting the connection she desired with this person that she once had with you yano what i mean mate ?

Please!

I don’t think it necessarily means romantic love, but I think it can easily turn into that under the right circumstances. I think caring means love but in a platonic way.

Thanks

I think caring is definitely better than hating if that helps?
Have you been doing NC and how long since the break up?
You need to show her your moving on, and then she will evaluate whether this rebound is worth losing you over!
From what you’ve said, you need to give her some space and not smother her with affection! I know you mean it and it’s meant with love but she’ll feel it’s a way of controlling her and it will push her away! It makes no sense and I dont get it but it seems to be the rule of the human race!

Her and i dated 8 months we broke up 5 months ago and she has been dating this guy for 4 months, she started seeing him 2 weeks after our brake uo and she dosent believe in second chances! She gave me a bunch of sings of her still loving me since! (Being emotional, jealous, bringning up old memories, contacting me in NC, push pull behavior and others) i did NC for 30 days to then talk to her with no success then i stopped for another 30 days because i quit and she txted me to know how i was foing and what wad new which led to the argument i had with her last friday and making me realise that i cant win no matter the effort i do. I mean i did change and mature alot, i llay hockey in 2 leagues, work out 6 days a week, go to school, have a job like im doing good but i still think of her once a day

You will, she’s been and is an important part of your life!
Someone said to me that you should never try to stop loving and caring about these people, just give them a little place in your heart, their own little compartment, and yes it is there and you can open it and feel happy, sad, cry about it, miss them, but you have to be able to put those feelings back into their compartment and lock them away! Otherwise they take up the whole of your heart and you will never move on…
I think you have to leave it to her now, you’ve shown her where your at and that’s all you can do! Keep bettering yourself, it sounds like your doing great, well done you, and become the best version of yourself! If this isn’t enough for her then you never will be, you will have to find someone who it is enough for! I know you don’t want to hear that and so many people will say it to you so im sorry!
Just keep smiling and showing the world (and her) how incredible your doing!

I already know she is never coming back, no matter how good im doing im still sad and depressed i just cant seem to find happiness i help others find it and i get even more miserable doing so, i did everything for her before, during and after the relationship and im still being treated like shit! Im probably going to end up dating a girl i dont want just cause i dont see myself getting a girl i want

Yes i do, but for the part where you say “you said that her feelings for you will still be there shes gone onto some one else to still feel an emotional connection” i dont understand much :blush: but also would you say i could still win her back? And if so how? Becausr ive done everything this site told me too and its been 5 months that she left me and 4 months shes with the new guy… also tell me if you want more info on my situation! I will read yours shortly and give you tips if i can :slight_smile:

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