Hi,
Me & my ex has broken up a month ago. I was the one who initiated the break up. It was also my fault that instead of talking out the issues with him, I just simply break up. I Guess he was very angry & hurt as soon as I started the break up text. He is not the best lover in the world & I can be selfish sometimes. There are times he acted like a child, ignored me when I want to hang out with him. I think the biggest issue is miscommunications. He is the kind of guy who likes to keep things to himself. He also have history in family background as he came from a broken family. His dad left his Mom when he was a child & his Sister was also recently left by her Husband. So he is the kind of guy who don’t believe in love & marriage way before I met him. I Guess I made him change a little of his perspective towards life while we were dating but I feel like I break everything when I started the break up. I feel so selfish, guilty & regret. However deep down inside, I still love him. As every girls go through during break up, I feel desperate, clingy, asking him to get back together with me & saying sorry for breaking up in the first place. But he refused. He said let just be friends. So I decided to follow Kelvin’s 5 step plan. Now I’m in no contact period. However, we two have a lot of common friends. He is still active in the group chat. It’s a bit hard to start the no contact bcuz of that group chat. I tried to leave the chat but other friends complained & put me back in the group again. So how can I maintain to make a successful no contact period by not upsetting other friends? Any suggestions?