I told my ex after she broke up with me and informed me soon after she liked someone and he liked her. It broke my heart loads. I knew i had to change and had already started I lost LOADS of weight in just a few months and I was learning her native language as a surprise for when we met up. We were together 5 years and I was going through depression. I finally got out of it but it was too late and I think she got tired of waiting for me to change. I wanted to change to I wanted to do all those things and I was happy I finally found the energy and strength to!
Anyway After this and some message, I of course sent her loads of messaging not so much begging but explaining my actions and where I know I went wrong and for the first time in years actually explaining properly what was on my mind. After I suggested that instead of dating she take some time for her self (This was before I read the 5 steps) I knew it was likely a rebound and I knew her mind wasn’t in the right place so I was just looking out for her but after reading the 5 steps I can’t help but feel this advice might blow up in my face.