I just realized, although I agreed to tell my ex that i’m giving her her space. I told her that I still love her and I left the impression that i still want her. I feel like I shouldn’t of done that. That might backfire on me, and it gives her the upper hand.
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Umm… you shouldn’t have done that: /
Damn…
Should I just leave it alone?
She told me the same thing…
But it’s different cause she’s the one who broke up with me.
Just do NC. AND DONT BREAK IT.
Even if she texts you or calls you for any reason. Dont respond… only nc can help you with this.
Besides those aspects. I think I remained stronger in our conversation. I kept it mature, I kept my composure, and made good points. I NEVER said i needed her, nor that i’m waiting for her, but she deserves her space to heal.
Should I write her a text saying i’m done with her?? I think I should rewrite this…
Dont do anything now… once you are into a week of nc, it will be easier for you to remain into nc for rest of the period.
But for now, dont do anything.
I was 2 weeks into NC when I did this.
Smh I feel bad now, this is going to ruin my chances 
You haven’t ruined your chances but you have to restart NC and wait a little longer.
How long should I do NC for?? She said she wants to heal and to give her a few months, I kind of want to do that too.
But should I wait till the 30 days are up to tell her I’m no longer interested in her and i’m moving on for good? I don’t know what I should do.
In my opinion, you shouldn’t decide anything now. Wait for the situation to cool down. If you see my thread, i have decided that i will only break nc when i get what i want him to do. Because he treated me badly and hurt me alot.
I would say you should also take this time to heal yourself first and then think about what you gonna do after that. For now, dont break nc at any cost. A month to tell that you’re over her is very less. If my ex texted me this i would be sure that he wants my attention and nothing more.
See what happens in future and then decide what you want to do.
Honestly, I don’t think she’s going to message me at all. Our break up is still fresh, it happened on the 6th, all she has been feeling lately is anger and disappointment like she mentioned on the call. She said i’m going to have to earn her trust back, and it isn’t going to be that easy.
I really wish we could sit down and just talk but she doesn’t want to do that because her feelings for me will “rush back” to her.
sigh this whole situation makes me sad
I can understand but the serious talk can only happen after nc period. Its going to be much easier for you if she doesnt text you. Trust me its so difficult to ignore your ex when all you want is to get back with them.
A text from them gives us support and satisfaction that they still remember us but its difficult to ignore them as well.
Dont worry its all going be okay soon.
Follow the five steps and work on yourself. May be join a gym.
Just to clarify, NC should be as long as it takes me to feel good about myself, correct? I wouldn’t mind a text from her, at least it’ll show me she still cares…
And yes, I did join a gym. I start going this week.
And my situation is much harder since i’m the one who got dumped.
Yes nc is for you to heal at first place and to get over the break up. Be confident and feel good about yourself. Till then she will also get her head cleared up and then you can see what would be your next step.
But a text from ex in the process of healing could be difficult to handle. Some people find it difficult to ignore them and break nc and are back to the break up stage.
Its okay if she is the dumper. You broke up because there was a problem in the relation and to make it work you both gotta work on that and not just you!!
I guess you’re right. When we broke up I started beating myself up because the reason behind the break up is mostly my fault. After having a talk with my mom her words gave me comfort she said, it’s not my fault, we’re BOTH are at fault here.
Your mum is right! Dont overthink about the whole situation. Sometimes its best to just let it go.
It’s really tough though. She’s my first love and we had plans for the future. It kills me inside knowing we won’t be doing any of it.