So I was with my ex for 2 years and everything was perfect, till I accidentally told his friend something and made him pretty much hate me, he says he wants to be best friends but I really want to get him back, I’ve tried being with other guys but nothing felt right or not as good as it did with him, I was sure he was the love of my life, the day after the break up I had asked him for a chance again and he said maybe one day. And I have to see him everyday, I haven’t really talked to him but we work together, and seeing him makes it worse, will NC still work even tho I have to see him everyday? And will this still work for me? I’m really worried and I am desperate to get him back. Reading this really helped me realize stuff tho but me and him only broke up about a week ago, and I honestly haven’t stopped crying, and my best friends are all in happy relationships so they are normally with their boyfriends. What should I do? I really don’t know what to do, I’ve never felt worse about this, today has just been a bad day and I’m really tempted to text him because I really miss him, please help, I really need advice or something, I feel so alone right now. I’m scared this won’t work and I’ll never get him back and I don’t think I can go a whole month without texting him, I’m so lost rn, please please help me.
Hmm. Hey!
It might be the most stupid thing to tell “Get over it” Yet sometimes it helps alot. Seriously, been in the same situation and the most rude stuff help.
I know You want your ex back. We always do after a break up, but it is always a decision to break up and it always hurts. I am sure that he still has feelings, he can’t ignore it.
People will always come around. It is quite tough to hold yourself back, but do not do something that will make You regret it.
You do not have to force yourself with other guys. As You can see, this brings no kind of relief and it wont help the situation.
Just talk to your friends, talk alot, but hold your back straight towards your ex, when You are around him. And the most important thing. Wait, wait a lot. Only time will tell if it is worth it, or not. The break up might have been the best decision in your life, because You can meet a new person right around the corner. You never know.
My ex cried for a week as well. Women tend to cry a lot, yet after that all is better. You must fight the tempation. You know you want to. You know that this is the right thing to do. Even I was addicted towards the stuff that I was used to do, in this case texting.
This is a stupid quite from Europe, but.
“Do not poke sit, because sit will start to smell” The less You poke it, the easier it gets.
Just wait, there is not much more I can tell. This is so fresh and of course it hurts. THIS IS NORMAL.
You should wait, gather a certain amount of personal space around yourself and never doubt in yourself. You can not force the other person to be with You, the person has to realize it himself. When You feel that You have some space, then work on it and use it to Your advantage.
Also, the more You get hurt, the thicker Your “Skin” will be. (I use a lot of metaphors)
Also, one month -> year No Contact.
- It helps you to grow some character
- Explore yourself
- Rediscover being single again
- Get values in your life straight
- Realize the relationship You had with your Ex.
Just work it, girl. You can do it.
I almost forgot.
I see my ex every day at school. I even know she had another relationship meanwhile. I had to withstand everything.
Just be polite and only respond to her shortly. Talk only about work-based stuff. You do not need to show intrest even if You want to. If he wants You back, then the MAN should ask the GIRL out.
Oh, and avoid hanging around same bars and places, but do not make it look awkward. You are single and You can do what You want. If You want to do something because of your ex, then it is not a valid option. If You want to do something because of yourself, then go for it. Doesnt matter if it is the same bar, concert, cafe… whatever.
Put yourself on a pedestal.
Good luck
Oh. Sorry. Not telling You to get over her, just wait and rethink the relationship