I didn't follow the rules, we got back, but it's over again...

no-contact-rule
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So yeah, I messed up. I read this site and other books but thought I could fix it… I kinda did because we got back.
The problem was that I couldn’t change, I couldn’t fix myself.

So now we’re “over but not over. I can’t get into a relationship but we see how things go in two months” kinda thing ?

I’m not strong. It’s been 4 days and I’m so close to just pleading and making the same mistakes. If she messages me I know I’m going to reply.

I know it’s my fault that we broke up. I didn’t cheat, I just changed and got really depressed. I don’t know how to fix it because I’m still the same. I’m probably worse.

I need to keep this going. I need to follow these rules. Not just for the relationship, because maybe we won’t work… But for me. It’s torture to continue this.

I need help. I need advice and if possible, someone to just listen to me. Someone to give some guidance on how to do this.

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I think you already know the answer to the question. What the real problem is you. Fake it till you make it. Fake change until the change becomes real.

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I’m on the same page. I tried to follow this too, but didn’t listen - contacted after like 5 days (couldn’t even make it a week) and we’re done again. I basically said I changed myself, but I didn’t… work on you. I know it’s hard, but trust me, you’ll thank me (and Kevin! :slight_smile: ) I’m in the process of that now.