Hi,
I have almost finished a month of No Contact and during that time I have made an effort to spend time with friends and family, to get fit, and to try and be a better version of myself. My concern now is how to make first contact with my ex and when.
It was a very civil break up, no fighting or arguments, he simply said he didn’t feel the same anymore. At the time he said he would like us to be friends and would be up for meeting in a couple of months. But at the moment he still wont look at me when we pass each other at work even though I am making an effort to smile.
Catch 22. Do I wait for him to return a smile before making contact, is that a sign he is ready? Or is that never going to happen until we get back into contact? How do you first break the ice?
When we were together, if he was ever upset or unhappy I always used to say a specific date to him, it was our own private joke and it always made him smile. I was thinking of texting him the date. And then following it with another text simply saying ‘There I got a smile’ or something along those lines. Just something to A) Remind him of our private jokes and our good times B) To try and break the ice so that he won’t be so cold at work anymore.
I’m happy with baby steps but the coldness has to stop while we have to work together. Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated.