My ex broke up Feb 9. I begged cried everything wrong. Her bday Feb 24 i made something big for her she cried and loved it but didnt get back together. Started NC. After 2 weeks of NC she contacted me we met up and got back together. 3 days later she cut me off. Her excuse was she’s settling with me. Its been 8 days of NC and idk what to do now. I feel like she’s going to leave me for sure :(…
what do you guys think??
Anybody???
Sucks i always try to give advice but no one can help out a little
Hi Juan,
I think you need to stick to your 30 days NC before you do anything else other than focus on healing yourself! You will be hurting, you will cry and you will feel like life as you know it is ending!
If things were wrong in the relationship, 2 weeks apart isn’t going to change them! You both need time to reflect on what you bring to the party! I’m sorry but 2 weeks is not enough time!
Don’t give up hope as people do change and realise, but this time really needs to be about you!
It will be so hard but you’ll see the benefit whatever happens! x
Hi pinnappleblue,
I think you are right. It wasn’t much. But she seemed so convinced about getting together. Her friend told het she was stupid for doing so. Also, i cheated on her 2 yrs ago. She forgave me but according to her she cant get over it and believes shes just settling with me. She loves me. she told me and i felt it like when we were good. But her friends are getting stuff in her head. Do you think ill be able to pull it off?
I think if you give her space there is as much chance of her coming back as there is of her not! Even more so if she’s saying she still loves you… Don’t underestimate that! Appreciate it please because I’d do anything to hear my ex say he still loved me!
Take a look at my thread and see what you think to my situation…
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/24-days-into-nc-and-cant-get-my-head-around-it/
I think you’ve got as good chance of any of us! Keep your chin up and keep smiling, she’ll notice!
Thats true. I just get really desperate and think the worst. Even to believe that she probably has someone else. I dont know i dont really want to fpcus on that. I lack patience and maybe thats where i am failing at. She just thinks she misses me too much that it got the best of her that’s why she wanted to come back.
It’s a good sign that she misses you. Maybe she just needs a little longer to work out what she wants to do with those feelings?
Do try and be patient, it’s so hard but it’s essential!
I know. What is killing me is that she met a guy and went out with him a week after we broke up so im scared she will go back to him
But she didn’t stay with him… That speaks volumes! Try not to worry too much…
We can’t change what is going to happen, we can only set us up in the best possible light to let it 
I knoW she didnt. But how do i know she didnt go back? 
this kills me according to her he was a nice guy n treated her good. Ughhhhhhhhhh
The breakup is really fresh. Try to do nc for a longer period of time. That way you can actually make significant changes and show her you can be better for her. If she does get with another guy it will be a rebound and mean nothing. Stay strong and work on yourself, I know it’s hard when I first started nc after my breakup I literally felt like I was dying. But I needed that time to calm down and not do or say something stupid to push him away more
True. Thanks Ly88. Sometimes someone elses point of view helps alot.im really working on myself to be a better man. She will see the changes. Or even hear about them.