Hi all,
I really need some help and advice so yesterday I got a text from my girlfriend telling me she no longer wants to be in a relationship with me,
We have had a very tough year unfortunately we lost a baby and then 2 weeks later she lost her nan, she sent me a text saying that she can no longer trust me and does not want to be in a relationship with me she also said that she still wants to be friends and then maybe we might get back together, she wants to meet up on Friday to talk about things instead of text.
I have no idea what it is going on I haven’t texted her today and I’m not going till until Friday.
What do I do and what do I say I’m so confused and so in love with her I thought us loosing a baby together would make us stronger but I guess not please help me I don’t want to loose her at all
Thanks
Thanks very much buddy for your advice I do have so many questions to ask should I jump straight in with them or should I just make a casual convo first?
Don’t ask any questions. It took me a little while to realise you probably don’t need to ask them. You were in the relationship too, stop and thinking objectively about it and you’ll find out the answer yourself.
I have fucked things with my relationship as it stands, so don’t do what I did.
Ok thanks I’m glad I found this site because I like to talk and express my feelings what did you do to mess your relationship up if you don’t mind me asking? I’m from the UK by the way so please don’t take my arrogance or anything to offend you
It’s been a matter of days for you man. You know what I wouldn’t do is consider things too much. Take your stuff back and have faith. As long as you didn’t do anything wrong you’ll be ok. However, if you did do something wrong then think about it and apologise. Don’t grovel, just accept your misdoings. Be a man.
She will tell you all you need to know when you meet. And don’t come one here too much if you can, accept where you are and don’t let it cloud your judgement. Seek advice only when you need it. Take your time, make the right moves and then come back here.
I had the chance to resolve things two weeks ago with my partner, I just didn’t know it at the time because I wasn’t thinking clearly. Missed it.
Hey man, so just to update you we had a long talk this evening and she didn’t want to give me my stuff back as she wants to use it for a little longer ( my xbox) she also kissed me and I mean a full on kiss not just once but multiple times what are your thoughts?? We straightened everything out but she still said she wants to be friends? I’m confused
You are in such a good position man. Chill out. Take some time for yourself, and don’t chase her. If she texts, take time to reply and be level headed.
She broke up with me over my insecurities, right as I was about to make an effort to change them. Managed to miss two opportunities to see her since basically. I guess I dug my own grave. 3 years, 8 months. 2 and a half years living together.
She actually essentially offered to come and see me this weekend, but somehow I managed to do my normal bit of asking too many questions, casual ones, but too much too fast. Now I don’t know if she’s coming or not.
I have a letter and a card to give her, but I think she’s coming to call it a day.
You can read the first few posts on my thread, you’ll see what I missed.
Oh man, I hope everything turns out good for you man I’m gunna read your first posts if that’s cool.
What do you reckon I should do then because she said she still wants to be friends and still hang out but I’m worried she might meet other guys at the gym am I just over thinking, she said she still loves me and just needs time to sort herself out and then she stopped talking and just started kissing me and said she misses me already what do I do?
She did also that there is a possibility that we will get back together she said she is not ruling it out.