So my ex and I are talking this morning and he asked about my sex life so far…and then he told me he did it with I’m guessing his rebound. I am kinda mad about it. But he keeps saying he has me. He said “you don’t have to use sex to get me, I have you ;)” what? I’m trying to get it through to him that he can’t use me for that. If he want he has has me like wants to get back? What does that even me? He doesn’t really have me. He just thinks he does. Help?
Can someone please tell me? Kind of an emergency
I’m not sure what he’s trying to say! Looks like he’s playing games. You need to be strong and do no contact
I’m trying to get it through his head he can’t use me. It feels like he is trying to get me back but also testing me? Idk. But I really want him back
I know you want him back but u also don’t want him to walk all over you. Have u done a no contact period?
Oh I just want to tell him straight up he isn’t using me. I thought I got some of a point across. I asked what he meant by him having me. He thinks he does but he doesn’t. I want it to be the other way around. And yes. I did in December and he would constantly message me. He got mad one point cause I wasn’t replying. I tried to explain why I was so messed up to him in October and he doesn’t understand. But sometimes I just don’t talk to him as he snapchats me almost everyday. I know him asking about my sex life is something good. Him saying I’m chubby still pisses me off. But I’m working on that for me though
You can’t let him get to u. I feel for your situation
Could u possible give me some advice on my situation
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/show-her-ive-changed/
Your opinion would help
What should I tell him? That was a problem. I was easy to him, I let him walk all over me. Could telling him he can’t do either of those prove to him? I mean obvisouly he cares
U don’t need to tell him anything just be strong and don’t let him walk all over u. If he wants u back make him prove and show u how much. U deserve respect.
I feel that what I told him is starting to prove to him. He thinks he has me but he doesn’t
That’s good stay strong. I’m sure you’ll get what u want if u do
Could u possible have a look at my post I sent and tell Me your opinion. I’m going mad here with my own thoughts
But why is he acting like this? Thinkin he has me and all that? And the sex thing bothers me. And the chubby part…
Confused girl,
Sorry to be blunt but this guy is not chasing you and he does not respect you. He is keeping you on the back burner as a backup option and it’s cruel. If you really want to get his attention, ignore him completely. Don’t respond to his texts. His snap chats dont mean he wants to get back together, they just mean he doesn’t want to allow you to move on in case he changes his mind. Don’t be his backup option. You deserve to be someone’s first choice. Plus him calling you chubby is extremely disrespectful. If a guy ever said that to me I would slap him across the face. You need to stop worrying about how to get him back. Delete him off snapchat and stop answering his texts and then he will wonder what changed. Only then will he MAYBE revisit the relationship. You’re making it too easy for him and showing him you still care. Delete him off everywhere and ignore him. Focus on your own happiness. He flat out told you to move on. Show him you’re doing that even if you’re just pretending. Something needs to change. Be proactive and start ignoring him before he wakes up one day and does it to you. Be Strong! You can do it. Focus on finding happiness elsewhere. It’s the only way.
Now that is some good advice! That’s what u need to do! @atena1234 could u possible look at my post and give me good advice like that
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/3-weeks-broke-up-1-week-moved-out/
I would be very thankfull
I told him I was happy and he said I’d be happier if I moved on. But he is not to tell me what to do, and I will show him that I’m not a second choice. I just asked what he meant by all the shit he said and when he said “you don’t have to use sex to get me, I have you” idk what me meant. He has as in…he wants me back or the other thing. I’m tempted to tell him straight that he us not to use me. I don’t care if I sound like a bitch. He needs to get it through his head. His actions say he still loves me and some of them he wants me. And he still snapped me when I didn’t reply. I was just trying to make a simple conversation this morning
My ex has said smimilar things. Basically I think he is saying he knows he has you when he wants you. I agree with the person who said he’s trying to keep you as a backup. I think the best way to show him he’s wrong is to completely ignore him and try to focus on other things. Let him get mad. If it gets bad tell him that if he really wants you to move on that he needs to give you some space and that you are sorry but you can’t answer his texts & snapchats for awhile. And then don’t respond to him anymore.
I know it’s easier said than done. I’m right there with you.
I want him. But idk how to turn this shit into him wanting me
I don’t even remember what we were talking about anymore. I was wrong he said had. I’m still confused…i want him back but idk what to do
Oh and, I noticed last week I was kinda letting go more and he would not stop sending me crap. Like he would send me the stupidest shit. I tried explaining how I was feeling before we broke up and it didn’t click with him. Sometimes I wish I could be a bitch to get shit through his head. Our break up is completely fixable. Seriously. Why is it so freaking hard