The breakup happened on April Fools, but it wasn’t a prank.
We had been dating for around 10 months, before the breakup, we even booked flight tickets to go to Hong Kong this summer, which is my hometown. 2 days before we broke up, we even bought the tickets to go to Japan, he also invited me to go to the Easter with his family on Thursday. (which would originally be on the breakup day). I was going to spend a night at his house on Saturday. On Friday, he sent me a text saying that he couldn’t hang out on Saturday, but he’d come by my house on Sunday. That’s the day he drove to my place, and broke up with me all of the sudden.
He gave me back all my stuff, and said we’re not right for each other, and had been thinking about it for a while. He also said that he would never forget me and would like to be friends.
We were really happy and making big plans together, I really don’t understand how he could just cut everything off out of the blue. A few days before the breakup we were still really intimate and sweet together.
After that, I sent him a few desperate texts for two days and then I found this website, that’s when I started NC.
4-5 weeks later, I had done a lot of things that could make me find my own value and identity again. I started to feel confident about myself. I got back in touch with him and I asked him out. We’ve hanged out for 2 times so far, he’s pretty talkative and happy when we are speaking in person, we always ended up having fun and interesting conversations. Yet he seems less likely to talk in text messages, and tends to respond in a neutral and short way. Since he’s a nursing student, I understand that he has a really busy schedule, but he still makes time for me when he barely have time to hang out with his family and friends.
I am the one who initiates all the conversations after the breakup, though I only text him 2-3 times per week. Do I still have a chance on this? Is he just too busy to text anybody or he wants to keep it as friends only?
P.S. I found out that he hasn’t canceled the tickets to Hong Kong yet, it’s like $900 in total, could he possibly forget about it, or keeping it open?
I really don’t like how he broke it off. Now I read that he is on Nursing School. He could be interested in a class mate. He broke up with you to persue the other girl. It could be wrong but the way he did it and the change all of the sudden makes me think he isn’t interested in moving forward with you. You have followed the steps and are not working. Just let time pass. Maybe he will comeback but maybe not. Right now it seems like he wants to be friends with benefits. My advice is do not travel with him! Don’t let him think that you will ever settle for non commitment. If he doesn’t text you is because he isn’t interested. I suggest you do another round of No Contact for yourself, not to get him back. If he wants you he will comeback and ask you to be his gf again.