I just thought I would share this to encourage everyone else! I really learned that getting your ex back doesn’t only depend on you working on you or you doing NC…it really also depends on your connection and if you ex still will want to make it work.
My boyfriend and I had a horrible breakup…it came after a fight (probably a good thing bc in fights emotions are high) We didn’t have any major problems like cheating or things like that…but we did have communication and jealousy problems and we had gotten in a bad cycle of me blowing up his phone and him ignoring it…
I posted threads during the time I was doing NC so feel free to look at those!
But anyway. I did 21 days strict NC. One day he accidentally sent me a text and another day he searched me on instagram (we aren’t following each other) and liked my photos.
Day 22 of NC was his bday and I was torn. Well, I ended up saying something short and sweet. “Have a wonderful 25th bday hope you get 25 ninja turtle cupcakes and some apple pie.” Something like that. He replied saying “thank you” I waited 12 hours and said “You’re welcome. Saw an awesome ninja turtles shirt the other day and thought of you. Have a good rest of your night.”
Then he replied “thank you babe. love you.”
I was shocked. and then the rest followed.
We are currently working on us. We are definitely both trying now and no, it isn’t perfect but it has been better. He did say our time not talking was for us to work on ourselves before working on us -___- which was NOT what he said before! The break up was never communicated as a “break” but he apparently never had full intentions of losing me…he just didn’t tell me that. --
So maybe your ex still hopes you guys can get back together…Keep NC and working on yourself 
Only break NC when you are ready for any type of response (or no response) and when you have a legitimate thing to say to him/her
Hope my success story helps everyone keep going!
Congratulations! That is awesome news! Keep doing what your doing and you’ll be just fine! Best of luck to both of you Also check out my blog, I would appreciate your comments.
Well done - pleased for you and agree with what you say re: fights and connection. My ex says that she has a great connection with me and that she still loves me as a friend. She is in a rebound relationship with somebody she says that she doesn’t have a very good connection with and gets angry with me whenever she misconstrues something simple that I disagree with her over, hence my current period of no contact. Just hope that I am not doing further damage in this no contact period (I am currently 16 days in to my planned 35 days).
Always good to hear some positive stories. All the best!
This is great to hear. Hope more people can share their success stories
Hey ZuZu1000 I don’t know if you are still on here but if you get this could I have some advice?
So I’ll keep it short. My gf of almost 2 years broke up with me about 35 - 40 days ago. She said the spark faded, we are both 18 and started college, she could have met someone and that’s why she left me but who knows right…
Anyways I did 21days of no contact, I was on the opposite end of the bday text lol. It was my birthday and I never got a happy bday so the next day I messaged her on instagram. We spoke on Skype a few hours later. It was a happy and friendly conversation no fighting but… at that point I still didn’t know why she left me, she said there was a divide and that she loves me just isn’t “IN LOVE WITH ME” that hurt but anyways we talked about the relationship, she usually got cold when I brought it up in the call. I found out a main reason she didn’t want to date was because I was very needy, I overwhelmed her. The call ended happy she left to go carve pumpkins. She posted a photo of them later and I liked and commented, it was a funny comment and she replied (pointless chat don’t need to write it).
A few days later I shot her a text on instagram saying how my cousin invited me to a “furry” party, we talked about furries a long time ago so it was a funny text, she replied with “that’s always fun” she usually replies in short sentences. But here’s the thing… I sent that let’s say… on October 29th she looked at it that day but… she replied the next day at around 10:30pm this means she went back I to her messages and clicked me to reply because she was thinking about me (maybe).
After that on Halloween I went outo with my family friend, I call her my cousin, she’s also insanely pretty so I snapped a picture of her in her cute frog costume and posted it. Two days after that I sent my gf a text basically saying can we hold out on talking. I’m in the middle of moving, college is tough and I have driving school, so I had good reasons to say this.
I held out for 15 days (2 weeks like I said) then I sent her a text saying things have slowed down. While I was ignoring her she cut her hair short… I mean shhoooort, doesn’t matter tho, she always wanted to try it. I also asked if she liked the hair, she waited 5 hours to reply -_- anyways she said:
“I really love the hair but I can’t talk right now I’m really overwhelmed”
I said:
“Okay, hope everything’s okay lol. I can’t give a proper opinion because I’ve only seen one photo but I think it suits you well.”
She looked at it and that was the end of the conversation
So I’m going to wait another 5 days to text her, I have an interesting thing to say in mind.
Do I still have a chance?
Any tips?
Ps. It was a meaningful relationship for both of us, we were happy and passionate.
Another thing to mention is that she was my first and I was her first…
Pps. So happy it worked out! This is a year later so I hope everything is still going well!
Ppps. (Lol) Anyways I have another thread “confused and scared…” if you want a lot of information it’s about 250 posts.