I haven’t spoken to my ex in about 8 years. We ended on vey bad terms and she’s since been married and divorced. I got I. Touch with her in March, not expecting her to reply, but she did. We’ve been chatting on and off since then but aside from a couple of things she’s said, I’m not really sure if she’s interested in trying again. So far I’ve been the one to initiate most of the conversations. In hindsight I’m worried I may have come across a bit too eager recently and I’m wondering if I should do a reset and cease all contact for a month or just continue talking on her as I have been but with a little more restraint? It’s been 3 days since I spoke to her and I don’t really want to message her until I know the best course of action to take. So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
How long was the relationship with your ex? What were the reasons for the breakup and who instigated it?
Do you live close to each other? You said you’ve been “chatting” since March (text or phone calls) so I assume you haven’t seen each other in person…
You could continue talking, but YES, use more restraint and don’t overwhelm (come on too strong) her.
Meet up in person if she’s willing and take things slowly. It seems there is much to discuss since you’ve been apart for 8 years.