Hello,
My name is Mat and I live in Australia. I am 26 and my ex is 20.
I’ve never really asked a website for advise on such a sensitive subject before but I really need some advice on this.
Around 2 weeks ago my girlfriend blindsided me by telling me that she has taken a job in central Australia (the middle of the desert) and she didn’t want to attempt long distance. We have been together for a year and a half and everything was seemingly happy so it was a massive shock. As she was leaving early next month we decided to continue seeing each other until she leaves.
She was very conflicted and kept telling me she was considering long distance, then she’d change her mind and this went on for around a week back and forth. This is until last Sunday (Valentines day) which I couldn’t take it anymore and I needed to know what the issue was. Apparently she has been unhappy with things for a while but never spoke to me about it. She gave me a few examples but non seemed worth ruining our relationship for which it then came out that since being offered this job she didn’t know if she loved me anymore. It was at this point which I told her that if that’s the way that she feels then we couldn’t be together anymore. After hearing this she broke down crying in a way which I have never heard anyone cry before (my psychologist suggests it was most likely a anxiety attack).
After these events I have had a realization that she has realized how serious we are and she knew that if we didn’t break up now we would be together forever, meaning she cant do a lot of what she had planned.
I am going to be attempting the steps to get her back but what do you think the chances of them working in this situation are?
Should I be getting my hopes up or should I be more realistic about this?
Thanks.
- Mat
