I blocked him in January after this last contact he made then; he said just so you know, I do miss you. When he “checks in”, he tells me improvements and things he is doing with his life. He said he is coming to town in a few months. He never did. He said he still looks at my pictures, he wanted to call me so he can hear my voice. I then asked him if he is not happy? He said he is happy but he still has all those attachments and a big part of me is still with him. If he is happy, why keep trying to connect with me?
He called me and he said he is not confused. He misses our friendship, conversations, our road trips I surprised him with, etc. Asked me what I have been doing, if I have a new boyfriend. Before the conversation ended, he called me baby and said he got lost driving because I distracted him. He wanted to call me back later I said no. I told him I want to move on from this relationship and he said shut up my nickname. I knew I had to completely cut him off. Too much, especially since he is involved. Not playing that game.
A month ago, he calls me on another cell phone but in his fiancé’s name that he has. Mind you this is an old friend of his 35 years ago they dated, he got together with behind my back last September and lied about his intentions of moving back here to make things right with me. He is engaged to her(she said a long one on her fb ,lol) 2 months after he puts it on fb in November he is with her after he lied to me about it. I think he is just using her. This is a karmic relationship for them because she had a live in boyfriend at the time and was sneaky with my x before she decided to kick him out and get with my x.
When he reached out to me a month ago, he left me a voicemail upset I blocked him all the way out, cant communicate via fb messenger, blocked his fb profile, phone number, etc. He was angry. I ignored these calls and texts for 2 days. He called and texted a total of 10 times the 1st day, just for belongings? He even called me a B in the vm because I am holding these things hostage. No. You had all this time to figure out how to get them to you and still engaged with me inappropriately when you claim to be a happy man. Right!
The reason he said he was reaching out was to get these boxes of family photos and sentimental items back ( I have heard this for months- I don’t have that kind of $ for shipping). I also don’t think he cares about these things or he would have gotten them by now. Just excuse to contact me!
When I decided to unblock him on messenger, he called me and immediately asked if I have forgiven him yet. He said he knows he has hurt me really badly and he was very sorry. He said he wished he had gotten it right down here with me. He sounded very sincere about it. He moved back home out of state last May when I kicked him out. He begged me for 2 months to take him back but I gave him my stipulations. I have told him I have forgiven him. Healthy thing to do.
He also said he has been working extra hours and picked up side jobs so we can make this right, if you know what I mean. Make what right? I never did clarify this. Does he mean save $ to move back here and leave his new woman, hoping to reconcile? Or send me $ to show he is not a bad person from when he lived with me and took advantage of me? He did say separately to let him know how much it costs to ship those boxes.
2 weeks later, he leaves me a vm at 1:10am my time saying he still looks at my pictures and wants to come down here and be intimate with me, if I would let him( to be nice in here). I was like woah! And he wonders why he was blocked up in January.
So we had it out again about that message. He said he should not have but just my feeling after looking at pictures. He backtracked himself and said that was when I was with you. NO it wasn’t. He said he was sorry, we was cool when we were together, he was a hot mess but now I’m on something else.
I went off on him saying not cool if you have another woman in your life and calling me, not fair to any of us. Then asked if we can be cordial friends. I said no, this is why and you hurt me really bad, threw me away like a piece of trash, played games with me last fall and lied and hid her about what your intentions were with me, us. This is too much to be friends. Excuse to keep foot in door.
He said he does love his woman and he doesn’t reach out. He just asks for his stuff. I said yes you do reach out. I told him I am a queen, not a value meal. He said to move forward like a queen. I told him I have been. He wanted to call me later when he went to break. I said nope. Told him this is nothing but games. I been moving on and I been trying to tell you how I feel about all this, this doesn’t make sense for you to keep acting this way the last several months for a happy man. I let him have it! I told him I will find out how much it costs to ship those boxes and I don’t want to talk to you again! He got paid this last Friday. Still hasn’t made any attempt to wire the $. He said he was sending extra $ for me too. We shall see. He is dragging his feet about shipping those boxes. He wonders why I get tired of him.
For 2 days in a row after, when he said hi, I didn’t respond. He asked if I am still mad at him. I said no, I already told you why I don’t want to talk to you anymore and you don’t get it. He said don’t get what? SMH…I said you have hurt me way too much and you are being selfish. The following Sunday, he said he still looking at my pictures. He said if I miss him too and still have those attachments it matters to him. I just reflect on what matters. I needed to get my life in order. He is sober free now. He has another, better job.
Why can’t this man let go of me? What is he wanting after all this? Makes no sense to me, and I certainly deserve better than what he has given me. I will find it! Most exes leave the past behind when they done with you and meet a new lover. Or keep things casual and not what he does every month like clockwork before I blocked him out.
I need to really push him for that $… All I have to say is he cannot be truly in love with this woman or he would let me be and not get mad if you get blocked up.