So I was dumped with the crappy excuse ‘you deserve better’ I was so hurt and angry, as soon as we broke up he went chasing women like crazy. I was told it was his ego but I think him dumping me he just wanted other women. I went nc for 2 months. He was lashing out bad at people that new me, I found it tantrum throwing he want getting any response and I was going out happy with friends no way was I sitting home crying over him. When I got in contact with him I told him to cut it out, stop bagging me and stop attacking people that new me or have been seeing me. He said he’s sorry he’s still trying hard to move on but can’t cut feelings like that.
He asked me for friendship. I told him no! There’s more to it he kicked me out after moving in together just 10 days later! I text explaining why I didht want the friendship. He said on the bottom of his heart he’s sorry and leaving me was the worst mistake of his life. I said bottom line you cannot commit he tried telling me he can. He owed me money he said he knows he’s behind and will catch up soon. I thanked him. I didn’t hear from him for one week! Remember I did 2 mths nc. Then he messaged me saying he’s in between jobs and first pay he will fix the money owing… I’ve ignored it. I have 2 things in my head. If a man wants to be with you he would, and he hasn’t tried to reconcile the relationship other than ‘friendship’ can I please have your thoughts? Thank you
@Shinebright73 - Sounds like you dodged a bullet. Kicking you out after 10 days of living together shows his true colors. He is obviously incapable of having a meaningful long term (close) relationship. I’m glad you didn’t accept a friendship. The guy sounds like trouble. In between jobs? Don’t lend him money again no matter what! If he repays what he already owes you fine, but if you don’t need the money back, let it go and let him go. Don’t contact him for any reason. You deserve better! Curious as to how long you dated before moving in…
Gosh you are right there all of his relationships have lasted less than a year. He was 18 months (off on) with me. I feel stupid bc he’s not the guy for me it’s hard to try to figure out why I was actually dumped suddenly I tell myself don’t try to just let go but still I wonder. I obviously still feel something for him God knows why! And asked if he missed me … He said he has his moments yes… I found that a bit too cold, moments? So I told him let’s take this as closure please don’t contact me anymore… 2 months nc. He said it just proves what we had was real but we just can’t be together. Then another message… I will respect your wish but one last thing… I do still love you… I thought wtf. Then he tried to call to see if he’s blocked. I was already upset I said ok well if you’re going to continue and call to see if you’re blocked best I do bc we both need to move on I have no interest in any sort of connection with you. we aren’t in each others next chapter. Consider it closure. Take care… I blocked him. Please don’t put me down I’m really trying… I haven’t been stalking I get on with my day but he keeps crossing my mind and I feel sad. Secretly I hope he comes back and really tries 
I moved in with him bc he was determined to give it his all… 100% and he did seem to before we actually took the plunge to move in
@Shinebright73 - Just be careful… You said you were on and off for 18 months, so sounds like there were some troubles. An on and off relationship is not a stable relationship. He might be saying sweet things to get back in your good graces in order to borrow more money. Maybe not, but be careful. Actions speak louder than words. I wish you the best no matter what happens:)
Thanks for your reply. I’m just wondering why nc didn’t really work or am I expecting something I shouldnt? 2 mths nc I heard he was asking mutual friends if they heard from me. He was telling them he really missed me. But after nc I felt I was being played… Small chat then he’d go quiet etc then during a text I asked if he missed me… He replied I have my moments. Then getting we just can’t seem to be together. Idk if he’s holding his cards close or he really doesn’t care. I’m not going to be someone’s seconds or put myself in a position to be strung along