Long story short – ex and I together for 5 years, talked about marriage, kids, she was convinced I was ‘the one’ but says she’s now changed her mind about that. She’s now in a ‘serious’ relationship with a woman (she’s bi, not lesbian) that she’s known for just over a month.
After we broke up we were still very close, had sex, talked a LOT. Kissed quite a few times, even went on a date where she said her feelings were being rekindled. That was in August, in October she met someone new.
A week before they met she was a mess, said she ‘shouldn’t be with anyone’. A week later meets this girl, the next week tells me that this girl is the kind of woman she could marry (this is her first lesbian relationship), and after a month is talking kids.
Obviously it’s pretty serious. Is it a rebound? If so, will it matter?
It is a rebound she found someone who is not you to comfort her. I’m in the same boat my ex said the same thing and ended up with a new guy the week that followed! Dont worry she will realise soon enough that its not what she wants, and she’ll have to deal with the break up again. Read the article of rebound relationships and you’ll see!
Yeah I’m convinced that she became close with this girl to fill the void of no longer being close with me. Problem is she says she’s really happy with her, wants a serious relationship etc. Told me she doesn’t want me anymore and to go away (which I actually don’t believ,e based on other things). I had previously told her all she needs to do to get me to go away is to tell me she doesn’t love me, she hasn’t said it at all.
The other thing I’m not sure if it’s important or not is the fact that she found this girl on a lesbian dating site. So she wasn’t after another person, she specifically wanted a woman. Again - relevant at all?
As I said originally though even if it is a rebound, and I think it probably is, does it matter?
It could be a rebound or not…But ive learned about it…Is some rebounds actually work…Some people are just really looking.for more.than what they already have or had…So when they meet the new person they just feel like they found better than.you…All i can say is it may work or.may not…My ex left me for his new chickk going on almost four months…She claims shes pregnant and their getting married all over her social media sites…and doesnt get on those things…He havent contact me at all…Maybe he’ll realize what he lost, and maybe he’ll realize what he didnt lose…We would never really know…Sometines people will say things to get to you. and on the other hand they may actually be telling you the truth about houw they feel.about someone else…Good luck on your situation though