Do I have a chance +NC while traveling + what todo if we are working together

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I started to casually date this guy back in end of August. We used to chat everyday and he used to treat me like a real girlfriend even though we never acknowledged this…

The things ended last week because of my insecurities and I pushed him too much when he was busy. He created time for me in the middle of a busy schedule but because I am autistic I couldn’t handle the abrupt ending of the date… So I lost it in a meltdown.

We work together but he is not coming regularly. Although he can pop up any time. For example I am in NC for one week now and I already bumped to him 2 times when I was in the office.

He talks to me but it is not like it used to be. I am just curt. Answer only ifhe asks something.

In the past he is known to start things himself when we had a misunderstanding but it has been a week and nothing from him. He muted my Whatsapp status which was a platform for us to sneak messages or initiate chat over what I post. we are still friends on FB but nothing happens there either…

I have some questions:

  1. do you think I have chance?
  2. Do you think working together nullifies NC?
  3. I am going on a overseas trip in the beginning of December and will not return until a week after from the time my 30 day NC ends… What should I do?
  4. We have a similar culture, should I start communicating at the end of the NC period while still in overseas especially if this will give me plenty of opportunities to text/Whatsapp him?

thanks anyone who will answer.

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He doesn’t seem interested in you anymore. Don’t chase him! That means don’t text, even while you’re on vacation. Dating someone at the workplace is NOT a good idea, but if he wanted to ask you out again, he can easily do it because you sometimes see each other at work. Try to accept that he’s moved on and you should too…

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I forgot to add, he keeps telling me how he values me and how I deserve care and support. I am looking for a house and before I came to understood my actions made him pull away he sent me a voice message on Whatsapp about a house. he even told me to go take a look together. next time when we saw each other I already started NC and honestly didn’t think he still would remember the house… he told me he went ahead and saw the place himself on Saturday (the day I declined to do it because I live far and he might not have time for me if I end up going to town. the original plan was to arrange a day later when he was free for viewing) and found out the place was already rented.

doesn’t this show he still has something for me?

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No, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s romantically interested in you. Most men want to be kind and want to help ladies. Get on with your life and stop obsessing about him.

Maybe he will ask you out on a date again, but don’t wait around for him. Date other guys who live nearby to you. Good luck…