Contacted my Ex for the first time after NC

So today I texted my ex for the first time in over a month it went really well we talked straight for almost 3 hour so I texted him firt to say hey hope you’re doing well maybe we can catch up sometime but is there anyway I can get my bag back anytime soon? So I just said when he comes home for winter break just bring it and we’ll figure it out and I thought the conversation would end there but it didn’t he kept trying to talk to me and keep the conversation going which was awesome! So now my question is when I go to get my bag back next week when were home should I try and make a date or hang out out of it? Like I should I say hey do you wanna meet me for coffee and you can give me my bag then and we can catch up? Or is that too soon after initiating no contact?

I would let him initiate the next get together, and remember look your best, you want to WOW him with the new and improved you, give him something to think about when you say goodbye. I’m really happy this is working in your favor. I would stay very busy the week before you see him so you have positive and attractive things to talk about rather than the break up. I think if you are confident and happy you will make him want to get into a new relationship with you, just take it slow and let him chase you, not to manipulate but because you deserve to have someone want you. Good Luck and Merry Christmas. Your story made me smile, thank you.

He actually just texted me again after 3 hours later which is a good sign it’s an ongoing conversation even though it’s just about politics really but I already told him about the bag and I really do need that back because it’s a sentimental bag my mom made me out of my old sailboat sail so our first meeting will probably be getting that bag back I just don’t know if I should make that like a hang out or not

He also initiated us hanging out last night which was great and I’m really excited about that, does that mean he just wants to catch up with me or is he missing me and wants to get back together? Also he hasn’t texted me back since we agreed to hang out will he text me again or should I text him?

great to hear about this im happy for you :)) I think it’s best if you don’t text him for a day, so you still can take it easy and don’t seem to desperate to see him, if meanwhile he doesn’t contact you, then you do it. I think its the best , but am not sure… If he just want to catch up with you it’s a good chance for u, u can make him miss you (if he isnt missing you already)…

So quick update we haven’t talked since last time when we agreed we were going to hang out over Christmas break. I haven’t texted him and he hasn’t texted me I thought it would be best to let him contact me because he was the one who suggested we hang out. He came home yesterday from school and he also refollowed me on Instagram. I’m not surprised he hasn’t texted me yet because I think he doesn’t wanna make it seem like texting me to hang out is the first thing he’s looking to do when he’s home but I also don’t know if he refollowed me on Instagram to get my attention like to text him or he’s just really really trying to be friends with me (which I obviously don’t want cause I don’t wanna be friend zoned). So I think that I should give it a couple more days to see if he texts me to meet up but Id like feedback on that! Also what do I do after the meet up?! Thanks!