Hi me and my girlfriend have split up for 3 weeks now, up until this week we were still living together. She has now moved out. During the time we were broken up but still living together we still hugged and kissed even slept in the same bed where she would hold on to me till she fell asleep. Now that she’s moved out I took her some things she left behind and even took her grocery shopping we joked and laughed like nothing was the matter. And when I dropped her off then she hugged me and went in for a kiss 3 times. She says she wants space so that’s what I’ll give her. Everything to me, the way she acts, looks at me makes me believe she still loves me. We were together for 5 years and spent everyday together. Now I’m trying to give her the break she wants but finding it hard. So confused
Hey, what are the ways in which you think she loves you? All I can say is give her space. Really - give her space. I think she will come back. Do what you like. Do everything you’ve wanted to do besides being with her
@merchaunt could you help me pls everyone says you are good with advice.
If u need the whole story ask and I will fill you in. Thanks
I think she really will come back to you. just the way she is acting towards you proves it. just try to give her her space and focus on you and being happy. you have to make yourself happy before you make someone else happy. do you think you and @merchaunt can help me with mine?
I’m not so sure now, when I called yesterday I thought it might go a bit better, but things might be still raw. We have to meet next week for the final time to sort out the last of belongings. I might see how we get on then, good or bad I’ll be starting my 30 days no contact from that day again. I have a plan but sticking to it is hard.
ive wrote a rough draft of my letter I will send out after no contact and I’m hopeing that the time apart and the letter combined might melt her towards me. I’m hoping when she see’s me next week things might be better than they were on the phone last night
yeah I hope so too man. but it seems as if she just wants to take a break and really think about things and find her true self. I would just stick to the NC even though it is super hard and trust me I know. I didn’t want to answer her call today but for some reason I did. I feel as if I do not contact her then she will move on and act like I do not care about her and finally gave up. I feel like you feel the same way and we are kind of in the same boat because both of our ex’s stuff is still with us. I think we could really help each other out and work on things together. we are in the same situation virtually
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Alright I will!
Ye it is super hard, all I want is to get back together with her. I’m starting to think we will never get back together. I’m not giving up hope though. She loved me so much, up untill our Rocky patch, I’m hopeing I can show her I’ve changed and maybe just maybe she will start to see me the way she used to again. I belive you can’t lose love quickly once you have it its there and takes a lot to put out. Some time apart might do us good, but I’m hoping it don’t go the other way and she forgets about me. Only God knows
She just txt me to say we have viewings on our flat tomorrow, nothing else. I txt her to say thanks for letting me know, also because I know she’s been ill I asked if she was feeling better. No reply yet. I’m finding her behaviour strange because she said she wanted to stay friends and be there for each other. She hasnt much friends in the first place. So I’m finding this all hard and confusing !!!
Just really stick to the nc! I know it’s hard and all and you think that it won’t work but you have to believe it will work if you truly think it was meant to be and was in a serious relationship. Just give her her space and work on you like you said you were! Show the new and improved version of you! In the end it will all work out! Just like they say " if you love something set it free, if they return they were always yours, if not they never were" so you will know your answer in the end
True! I find it strange tho, before she left she said if I txt you pls txt me back, took our flat keys for security. On the morning before she broke up with me we made love and 3 days before she moved out we snuggled up all day with her telling me she missed me and that in her world. Then every night before she moved out she spooned me in bed. Now she’s giving me the cold shoulder. Just don’t get it. I know no contact and that’s what I plan to do doesn’t stop me thinking about what she’s doing. Is she just being cold towards me because if she’s not I might win her back???
Same here that’s what happened to me! She was kissing me and everything after we broke up and then about a week later she said she don’t want to lead me on and all this stuff. I always find myself thinking about what she’s doing and everything but I try to get it off my mind somehow
Well she replied. We exchanged a few txt’s she was intrested in what I had been up too. When I said I had been working out up to 3 times a week she seemed impressed. We arranged to meet next wed for me to drop off the last of her stuff. She even started to put x at the end of her txt’s but I’m not reading much into that. Her last txt read
‘Thanks Rust that will be good. I hope you’ll be ok, stay strong all I wish is for the best for u X’
I know it’s not much but it’s good at least she’s starting to thaw after our meeting I’m going into no contact. So hopefully she will start to wonder what I’m up too.
How are you pal? @shelden21
Any more news on your story?
Keep the faith pal
Well she called last night and said she was sorry for the way she acted to me during the break up and she said she loves me and cares for me still a lot and I haven’t talked to her really and she called me today and told me she got car insurance and her car put in her name! She also asked how I was doing since I haven’t really talked to her. She thought it was weird I haven’t texted her or anything so idk. But she also told me she had to act that way to get the point across! But she still said I love you at the end of the calls
I think she’s starting to realize thag you are really trying to change and be a better person which I think it’s good! I think that some girls get scared and hurt and think you won’t change so you have to prove it to them that you are willing to do anything in your power to get them back
Mate, I posted this on the other page. But the best thing you can do I’m my eyes is, and it might be a gamble. I would continue no contact if she txts u fine but u shouldn’t txt or call her. I’m sure you’ll find after a bit that she s thinking about u more and trying to contact u more. If she still says I love u at the end there’s always hope. I’m sure there will be a happy result at the end of your story.
I hope so too! I think everyone deserves a second chance you know? I think in your situation she’s really starting to miss you and realizing how much she really means to you to be doing all the things your doing! I think it’s a good sign and I really think you two will get back together! Just give it time!
She’s comjng to get all her stuff! Is that a bad sign?