Hi,
So I have done the NC for a month and now I am trying to re-establish a connection but I don’t know how best to get things started. We met accidentally at work and he was very nice. He then agreed to help me out with a problem at work and again he was very friendly.
I then went away on holiday and text him to say ‘thanks for helping, when I get back it would be nice to meet for a catch up’. The reply was pretty neutral. ‘No worries, let me know if you need a hand again - we all tend to help each other out. yes ok, have a good holiday’
So not overly enthusiastic about meeting but he did say yes… It also seemed like he was making a polite point that he helped out because we are part of a team and not just because it was me. So a very mixed message.
When I got back I had an email about an event that he would have been interested in so I forwarded it to him saying ‘Just had this email and thought it might be something you would be interested in’. So no pressure to reply, no agenda, just a forwarded event. This time the reply was quite abrupt (I thought) ‘Thanks for passing this on. I would of course be interested however I can’t make it this Saturday.’
I haven’t asked about the catch up yet because I don’t want to push him if he doesn’t want to do it. He seems to be trying to act purely professional with no emotion but then why agree to meet? Why not just say he doesn’t think it’s a good idea?
I am very confused over what he really wants to do, any suggestions?
Thanks