I sent a message saying “Wtf… my cousin evhan invited me to a furry party…” a long time ago we spoke about furry people and it was a fun conversation.
I said that about an hour ago and she looked at it… it says “seen” but she never said anything.
It seems like she’s being “cold” or doing it on purpose.
Oh I missed that “since you called her yesterday” part… fuck.okay I’ll wait till next week.
She might just not know what to say
Don’t send too many “cutesy” texts. You were in a serious relationship and the silly things won’t go far to make her feel closer to you. Whenever you send a text and she doesn’t reply right away or it takes a while, don’t stress out. Just don’t overwhelm her with texts… I know it’s difficult, but stick to your original plan.
I agree Patricia, it’s just hard to know that she is texting her friends with no issue, then when I send a text she doesn’t answer after reading it. I’m very stressed… I’m going to clean and listen to music lol.
I’ll text her next Saturday and see where it goes… I just wish she knew about the “honeymoon phase” last time we spoke on the phone I was like “I think our honeymoon phase ended” she was likept no we dated for two years… I was thinking “it typically last 2.6 years but varies” didn’t say that tho.
Would you guys look at the last thread I created? I need some help too 
Here’s a summary/repost
Here’s what’s happening.
We are both 18 and started college two months ago. After our breakup I did 21 days of no contact, I broke it… I know tsk…tsk… anyways. It was my birthday and I didn’t get a “happy birthday” that made me mad so I texted her, when she didn’t answer I called, still no answer… her phone is broken so we spoke on Skype for about an hour the next day.
During the Skype call we made jokes, she showed me her computer screen, she wanted me to give her ideas on what pumpkin picture to carve. I know this is stupid but during the Skype call I talked to her about why we broke up, she said I was being needy, I now realize, I was contacting her a lot, however that is because we saw each other once a week. She seemed fine texting her new friends in their “college group chat” filled with people in her class, she wouldn’t text me but would respond to their text, this bothered me. Back to the present (after our breakup and 21days of NCR) in the Skype call she seemed very unremourseful (when we broke up she balled, saying “I’m not IN love with you”. The day after our breakup I called again and we both balled”). Anyways during our Skype call her tablet was going crazy with texts from the “group chat” she is in a drama program with them, they always talk and have fun in the chat (she muted the chat while we were talking for that hour). When she left to carve the pumpkins I was sad… she posted a picture of them on Instagram later that night, I commented saying “told you, you can’t carve the carousel” I said this because we looked at a hard carving and I told her she couldent do it lol! She responded with “I ain’t never said I was going to attempt it”). They were good carvings… so I messaged her later saying “seriously good job, whish I had them whittle skills” she said “many do” that was the end of that conversation.
Today.
I texted her with a positive message not relating to the relationship. She saw it (message said seen*). But she never responded that freaked me out. I spoke with people on the forums they told be to calm down, so I did… I cleaned my room and did laundry to keep my mind off it.
The Plan…
What I plan on doing is contacting her next week with a simple yet interesting text, I will leave it open so if she wants to respond she can but if not… she doesn’t need to. If she responds I will bring the conversation to an end saying “need to make dinner” or something else non threatening. After a few weeks we can move into calls, meets and see where it goes.
Advice!
Anyone have advice on my situation? Things I really want to know are…
Guys, I really do love this girl, we have wonderful times when we were together. I don’t want this to slip away… even if she’s being sassy/cold (when we browe up she said “I just wish you hated me, it would be easier” is this a way to make it easier for her?) Please Help!
– John
@John Crane - When you were together, you were acting too needy by by calling way too much. You don’t want to fall back into that same pattern by texting too much. In fact, don’t call or text too much even if you get back together! It drains a relationship dry. Instead spend more time going out and doing fun things to create more memories. Okay, if you think her attraction faded while you were together because she said “I’m not in love with you” and she doesn’t understand why, maybe look online for articles to read about the stages of a relationship and send her a link. Don’t worry about the “friend zone”. A woman who has deeply loved a man does not put him in that category easily or quickly! Of course you were upset she didn’t sent you a birthday greeting, but I hope you never told her it upset you! You were not together at that time and maybe she just didn’t think it would be appropriate, I don’t know and it doesn’t really matter now. You have to let that go… Please don’t be jealous or upset that she’s texting her friends. That’s normal and has nothing what-so-ever to do with your situation with her. You must get control of yourself. Only send one text the latter part of next week (since you just sent one today). If she doesn’t respond, don’t panic or send another one until at least another week goes by. She said she wishes you hated her so you wouldn’t be feeling the hurt you do now and she doesn’t want you to act needy anymore by texting and calling too often. Believe me, she definitely misses you, but you’re going to push her further away by sending too many meaningless cutesy stuff. The weight she feels has been lifted is getting away from your needy clingy behaviors. Give her some time to think about your good attributes and better memories from the past. She can’t do that if you bombard her with texts and calls.
I do understand what you are saying, thanks for the advice. I did tell her no happy bday upset me… oops, I won’t let that bother me tho. I will take it slow and focus more on myself. I just cleaned my room and did all the laundry. I am also singing more, I like doing it but am uncomfortable doing it in front of to others lol
I also made a journal loft what I’m going through, I wrote down things I love about her, things I don’t like, how I feel etc… it helps me move on 
A clean room, clean laundry, and singing in the shower is all good clean fun, lol. You probably have a good voice and others would probably enjoy hearing you sing as it means your happy:) It’s okay about the birthday thing, just don’t mention it again. Focus on yourself and take things with her VERY slowly…
When did she actually break up with you?
She broke up with me on October 7th… so not that long ago lol.
I’m just scared that since we only saw each other once a week, sometimes once every two weeks, she won’t care that I’m gone…however during that time we would have like 1h - 3h calls on Skype.
So… should I be worried she’ll move on? We had a very intimate relationship, towards the end we fell into a routine of basically going to each other’s houses once a week, doing sexual things, watching shows, and maybe going out for ice cream. She said she was fine with all that and that’s not the problem…
Oh just saying… I’m a really good singer, I just don’t do it in front of people lol but when they hear me by secretly listening they are like… damn!
OMG ~ that’s like only 3 weeks ago. Wow, you really need to back off for awhile. Try very hard not to think about her moving on! It will drive you nuts. Most girls don’t move on fast if the relationship they were in was a close loving relationship like yours was. Seeing each other once a week has no bearing on the intensity of the love and caring. There are couples out there that see each other less often and still maintain the love for each other. The Skype calls were a bit long, but maybe too many during the week. She might have been okay with that in the beginning, but it can get more boring as time goes on when you know each other better. Watching shows (TV?), sex, and ice cream sounds fine. If you get back together, maybe go out a little more often to have fun times together.
I agree, it’s hard because we both put off getting our license, so we couldent go do stuff thato often and it kinda made it less personal when our parents were driving us everywhere. I get mine on the 22nd of next month, in the call she told me she failed her driving test lol!
Anyways, with the new found information what do you recommend? Should I do NCR for a month? Maybe hold off until I get my license? Or should I be worried about doing it because I already ignored her for 21days?
Can you give me a plan I can start please, I’m so confused… I’m only 18 lol
Oh! She’s also getting a new phone on Tuesday so I’ll need her new number… how do I do that? In the call I said I’ll need your number and she apply agreed, but what if she forgets or something? Just message her on instagram like usual?
Don’t nag her about the new phone number! You already asked her to let you know and she won’t forget. It might not be quickly because she probably doesn’t want you to overwhelm her with calls. Wait another 2-3 weeks and then maybe ask how she’s doing with her driving test. I’m assuming you already took the test and you’re waiting for the actual license coming in the mail. You could even wait until you receive it to contact her. If you think it would hurt or confuse her by doing no contact you could let her know you’re doing it so you’ll have more time to think think more logically about everything. DO NOT say it will give her more time to think. Refer it to yourself only. I can’t remember, but I think there are only so many chances to take it, but I hope she passes! You don’t need a minute by minute plan, but a general one. Less communications for now will be a good thing. Do you have a car yet or are you getting one soon or will your parents allow you to drive their car? If by then, you and your ex are on good speaking terms, you could ask her to go for a ride and to a dinner or movie or something else that would be fun:)
I have cars I can drive, Im moving like 10m away from my current house at the end of next month, I could slow down communication and say I need to focus on packing, college, myself etc… we are both procrastinators so we both are usually scrambling to get things done at school. Last call we said we would talk so I don’t know about no contact for a month I can try it tho
Oh, you could maybe take her for ice cream sometime after you get the license. Are you moving into a dorm or something? Will it be closer to her? I think you are about an hour apart now, is that right? Anyway good luck with the move. Your idea is probably better to let her know you won’t be in contact for a while.
Yea it’s about an hour away mayb more if I take a bus, 35 - 40min driving.