So when we last broke up she got a new tattoo and if was underneath her boob. She doesn’t ever show cleavage in her photos and when she took a picture of her tat she showed her hand just covering her boob and you could see the outline of her boob. When we got back together i didnt maker her remove i but i told her you know… she was showing alot. So she removed it. Now i deleted her on facebook and whatsapp and she blocked me on twitter. But kept me on instagram and snapchat. Now she is posting snapchat story of her tattoo but not showing cleavage but alot of skin. I can still tell with the smerking emoji that she still has me as one or the best friend on snapchat. Is she posting that to provoke me. It’s really making me want to contact her.
Hi Ironblood: I am on break now, so I will make this quick. At this point she is the one in control of the situation. Be strong. Take your power back and do not respond. I know it’s soooo hard to do, but you need self control. I would say it is up to you if you want to delete her on Snapchat or IG. Personally, I deleted my ex on FB. And I told him immediately why I did that, and it’s not to spite him but because I can’t be a part of his life anymore and it will just cause me pain and I can’t put myself through that. And I am sure he understood or probably does not care, really.
I know it is hard and you want to talk to her so bad, and whatever she is doing, what my ex is doing… Is really not out business anymore. That is the hard cold truth. I love my ex so much and I want him back soooo bad! But I know I have to let him be. After 7 weeks of no text, I initiated so I can make my presence felt, he responded with not much enthusiasm… And that was it. He knows I am still here. And I have to leave it at that. I hope you leave her to be too. But do say a quick happy bday on the 12th.
I can almost guarantee that if you responded back, this will cause another fight between you both and it will just get worse. Don’t do it.
I don’t want to respond in a fight just want to know how’s she’s been doing etc. I know it’s not the right thing to do. I just want to talk to her cause it’s killing me but I won’t.
In your opinion would it make her miss me more if I deleted her? If she even does miss me? This is litterally destroying me. I’m in a sensitive position with so many changed happening in my life. I really needed her to be here supporting me … supporting each other but at this point I almost want to crumble. But i wont allow it. Im fighting the urges but sometimes it can get too much.
ironblood,
Quit playing these mind games, I have already told you this (the passive aggressive behavior), it only makes things worse. I am very straightforward and I don’t wanna sound rude but I feel you need someone who tells you to draw the line here because you are very young. You need to divert your attention on other things in life because you don’t seem to have much else going on except obsessing about this. Your youth days can’t be filled with thinking over and over what she’s gonna do, why she does this and that, time is slipping away from your fingers. Put this aside for a while and really, REALLY concentrate on other stuff to do. With cold mind trust me, you will have a new perspective.
Thank you fishingthesky! You’re right! This is why i vent here. You guys all keep me strong. I wasn’t playing mind games i just know how she thinks.
You’re right though my mind is so occupied with what ifs that it’s clouding my thoughts. I’m going to university 9-5 this whole week so my mind should be occupied else where hopefully.
P.s she pretty much removed the snapchat about 30mins after i viewed it. I have a feeling she did it to see if we still had each other as friends. But enough of me over thinking. If i even want a slight chance with this girl i have to concentrate on my self. I may vent here fron time to time but i will do nothing drastic or stupid. I come here to my note pad to write as a form as therapy. I’m sticking to the plan. Thank you yet again.
WHAT THE HELL! SHE JUST MESSAGED ME “I MISS YOU”. I was right! She did snap to get my attention. Should I ignore and carry on nc? Should I reply?
I need a drink. Hahaha!! Oh dear Lord. I don’t know what else to say, the other person is right, this is the typical young love that we normally see. Here is the thing, now that you know for sure she misses you, concentrate on yourself and try not to play so many games. This is why the NC rule was important. It gives you both time to fix yourselves first before you talk to each other. Now is not that time. Both of you are not thinking rationally. After this, I won’t be surprised if you get into arguments again. You haven’t had time to heal yet and gather your thoughts.
I understand we haven’t had any time to heal yet. You’re right I don’t want to be the typical young love couple. I don’t want this where we split get together split etc. I’m still unsure she’s thinking straight. All I was trying to say was should i ignore this as I’m doing nc? Or keep it casual? It’s only been 10 days.
Although i want her back i am no where near ready to get back together straight away and i dont think she was imitating that. I’m trying not to play games.i don’t want the arguments i can’t deal with them and we don’t argue alot anyway. Only after we broke up.
A family member tells me to stop playing games and not to ignore her. She told me to keep it casual say " i know how you feel i miss you to " or something casual. From your opinions what would you recommend i do?
I don’t want to fall into the category of the typical young couple either. I understand i was immature but i want to learn from my mistakes. I don’t want to drive you all away by seeming like its a typical young couple. I class you all as friends here. I just need advice as i clearly need it lol? I don’t want to act on impulse and i dont want to ignore it completely to the point it seems like i dont want anything to do with her. Thanks
Lol. It’s ok. It just reminded me when I was young. No. You are not driving us away (me at least). If my ex texted me (which i not happening), I would not ignore him either. I’d just keep it simple even if in my head and heart I am freaking out. 
I’m kinda jealous in a way though because i’m getting nothing from him.
I’m so sorry about that. I’m sure he will eventually break and text you. It is clear he still cares for you so it’s only a matter of time MrsWB.
And yet again thank you.
What would you recommend i reply to that? You are right in my mind I’m freaking out but I can’t show it. I don’t want her to feel like she has an emotional grip on me but at the same time i don’t want to drive her away. :(. Im really confused in what to do/say.
Would it be ok if i just reply “well you know i miss you too” and leave it until she replies or for a while? Or ?
Yeah. I will be honest with you here. I am kind of stumped how to respond to something like that because we now clearly know she did that on purpose to get your attention. And you know for sure you miss her and want to say that to her too. I don’t have any suggestions what to say, but you are right waiting it out. Think what you need to say. You are the one who knows her best, what sets her off. Based on my situation with my ex, if he said that to me, I would definitely tell him I miss him too and no mention of anything else. If he wants to talk about it more, he will need to see me in person.
Thank you MrsWB I just messaged her back saying “well you know i miss you too” and left it at that. I need to go to bed as it’s 9:15pm here but i have to wake up at 6am. So if she does reply i will wait till tomorrow is that a good idea? Thanks again this means alot!
I’ve replied and she immediately asked me how i was. This is the conversation so far.
Ex: I miss you
Me: Well you know i miss you too
Ex: How have you been what you been doing
Me: I’m good driving instructor is pleased with my progress. What about you how’s work
Would you say keeping it casual is the good thing to do? What does this show? It’s weird she has never been like this after a breakup.
Ok. That looks good. Keep it that way. No talk of relationship and breakups, alright?
Hello all, Not quite sure where we are in the post as I have not commented in a few days. I wanted to share a little different perspective that echoes some of what I am reading. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired!!! The only reason any of us are in pain is because we gave into the unknown. We gave up our self respect and dignity for what we want so much out of life or what we thought we couldn’t be without. Truth is we traded the reality that we had for this shit! Our ego’s have taken a massive blow! But what I am telling you is it doesn’t have to be this way. I can tell you a little about myself, I am in my 40’s and can do everything I could in my 20’s. I am 6 ft. tall 225 lbs. of man! I refuse to waist anymore time worrying about what i don’t have but instead have started to recognize that i really didn’t lose anything. Anything that can’t be replaced that is. So we were done wrong or we screwed up, so what!! We are left only with our memories of what was lost or the shattered reality of what might have been F**K that!! I am through waiting for something to happen. I am about to make it happen. If nothing more than to just prove that she can be replaced.
Hi Paul,
I agree. We did cause this to ourselves. We have a choice to focus on ourselves and other things. But we are all human to feel these hurt emotions. I wish it was easy to numb ourseleves, or what those people did in “Eternal Sunshine for the Spotless Mind”. I’ve made mistakes too by pinning on someone for so long that did not exist anymore. That was entirely my fault because I was insecure. I did move on but I am broken up once more.
I only wish the best for each and everyone on this board and hope that everything works out for all whether it’s them reuniting with exes or finding someone else.
Yes definitely not yet MrsWB.
This is how it’s been going so far.
Ex: I miss you
Me: Well you know i miss you too
Ex: How have you been what you been doing
Me: I’m good driving instructor is pleased with my progress. What about you how’s work
Ex:Good that’s really good I’m really pleased for you. Urm it’s ok. Have you started uni yet
Me: I start tomorrow. I’ll know how you feel waking up at 6am now. Did you do you your first aid training if so how was it
Ex: oh really you looking forward to it
Well I wake up at 5 now and it would of been this week but they cancelled it for me because Sally said she didn’t want me out of the office for that long
Me:Yeah I’m looking forward to it hopefully it will be a change from college. How long was the course meant to be for then?
Ex: Yeah course it will be I think you’ll really enjoy it. Monday to Thursday how’s your mom
Me: Moms fine really enjoying her job. How’s your mom and dad I’m sure it was your moms birthday
Ex : Good I’m glad. Yeah their fine and it was yesterday
Me : Did you celebrate it. I went out last week for a meal for my aunts 60th
She didn’t reply after about 15 mins so i assumed she was asleep so i said.
Me: You’ve probably fallen asleep we can talk tomorrow if that’s ok with you night
I’ve kept it as short and casual as possible. Sorry if i keep spamming this board here just want to I’m not doing or saying something i shouldn’t be or if you had some suggestions to keep it interesting that would be great. She was replying quite fast around 1-4mins i took around 4-10mins. I guess that is a good sign right? Is it? From what you can see is this a good sign or is she just trying to be nice? Thanks.