Can no contact work?

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My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago. We were got her 3 years and lived together 2.5. He is 33 and I am 33.

We’ve had issues with him lying and cheating but I never left him. Over the past year, I have noticed things were better with fewer issues but I was still often angry and suspicious. We’d get into a fight about something stupid and it would escalate and I’d bring up the past. Things would get nasty and sometimes physical.

Last weekend that was exactly was happened. He was begging me to stay and telling me he only loved me and wanted a family with me and the future we planned. I was so angry I said and did terrible things. Even when he was telling me he loved me I called him names, said awful things to him, and told him I hated him over and over. He finally gave up and met my sister to give her my things and told me he never wants to see me or talk to me again.

I have so much regret because I should have just went back when he was asking me. We had a trip planned and I still had to come for work reasons. I saw him at the airport but he completely ignored me. It was devastating. I fly back home tomorrow and am sure I’ll see up again. I haven’t tried contacting him at all but it’s crushing for him to act like he never even knew me. Is there any chance in me being able to get him back?

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Your relationship was toxic; his lying and cheating. Physical fights are not acceptable! You need anger management therapy. For the good of both of you, don’t even try to get back together until the issues are resolved.

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I believe it’s difficult to leave a relationship where you feel you have invested significant time and most importantly yourself. However, the fact he cheated and constantly has been lying to you and acts in a uncommunicative manner shows how toxic the relationship is. While there may be some qualities in yourself that you can improve, you need to ask yourself whether the past 3 years of the relationship has been something that has made you grow in a positive way. The fact that you get more upset and feel less trustworthy of your partner doesn’t make me believe it has been a productive relationship.