I am happy that she has text you, now you see anything is possible, keep strong and do not respond until you are ready.
She is missing you but don’t let Her use you for her comfort.
You can do this 
we are all behind you.
i have thought about that Long and hard. That happened then unhappened again. But now you have me doubting everything.
Do not doubt yourself, keep being you she’s text and your doing the right things
Same situation. My ex got angry that I was always jealous and didn’t trust him enough. i think it would be better to do no contact and give him time to think. If it was a rebound, then it’s not meant to last long. But sometimes, rebound relationships could also turn into something real, so at least still let her know you’re there but don’t push yourself on her.
@caz15 Got another text just now. I didn’t reply to yesterdays text.
“was worried yesterday. But I see your Posts on Facebook so you must be alive and well. Take care”
Should I answer that? Or leave it? Let her stew some more. BTW, I posted on Facebook to my sister about getting a part in a Play (very different for me). But in my area everybody is into arts and it turned into a big conversation and loads of likes.
Please advise. Should I send your message now or leave it? Think I should leave it
Hey, I would not respond, she is trying to reach out! but you need more time
@caz15 I am obviously not ready to respond if i get butterflies and nervous. But that is a good sign isn’t it? At least she thought of me yesterday.
I guess this is the point of no contact. Let them feel what they are missing.
I can’t help wondering though if this is really just her being friendly. What if I still have no Chance and like someone said, she was emotionally detached Long ago.
Definitely not if you are still like that! She is thinking of you and sees you are changing and doing things for you.
If she is trying to be friendly that’s ok but you keep up the NC, if she was emotionally detached she wouldn’t have text at all
Good Points. I suppose the word ‘worried’ would suggest that she is not emotionally detached. Probably is trying to be friendly. But I am only on day 8. We haven’t gone without a Chat for this Long in nearly 6 years. Maybe in another week she might start turning.
But would she not get angry now? Thinking maybe ‘what a dick’ for not replying?
Or is this the Point were she will start thinking what’s going on.
It’s 15 days for me and it’s the longest I have ever gone.
She will be thinking “what’s going on” if she texts again say “I’m good thank you, I still need some more space and time”
It’s too the point but do not ask how she is and what she is up too!
thanks. i haven’t text anything yet but may Combine the 2 ideas of yours. As in “I’m good thanks. I Need some space at the Moment. I’ll be in touch when I’m ready”. But that’s breaking NC is it not? Anyway, she can be stubborn so i will hear nothing for a while now.
Have you heard anything in the 15 days? Any word at all? Anything on Facebook?
It’s not breaking it your just responding in a nice way and not being rude. Go straight back into NC.
I’ve heard nothing, he blocked me on facebook when we broke up in August.
I will only send that if she texts again (3rd) time and if i get a Feeling that she is genuinely worried about me.
Facebook is a load of crap anyway. Nobody is real on it so you’re missing nothing. I just use it to Chat with Family and friends at home.
Your Story is very similar to mine. Did you do anything about the drinking? If somebody else starts telling you that you have a Problem then you do. I did too. So I quit. In day 57 now without that and never fealt better. But I could only have managed that with the Support of Family and friends back home and gallons of tea
Do so she does not think that you are not being rude. That way she will be thinking about you a lot more.
To be honest I’m glad he done it because it made it a little bit easier not to see him.
I did I seeked help and now I’m doing much better, I went back to Ireland also to my family who were really supportive.
I am losing hope as he has not contacted in 15 days and doesn’t seem to care but I am focusing just on me now.
You’re from Ireland? I did reread the “back home” bit and wonder. It takes a Long time for them to notice or believe in a Problem back there, but when they do they are great. Tea and cigarettes are my replacement for now.
Should I text her then today or wait for another message?
I am, I’m back in the UK now, I went back for 4 months. They were brilliant but I don’t think anyone really understands a break up unless they are going through it. This is why this site helps, tea and cigerattes for me also.
I would wait for another text.
Another text came. There is post for me. What will she do with it? Does she Sound pushy now? What will I do?
She’s trying to reach out, send the text and say I’ll collect post when you are out or if can pass onto a friend and thank her for letting you know.
There has been post there for weeks. She could have brought it to me earlier. I’m confused. Faack
Is she looking for a reason to meet? I don’t want that yet
OK. I have no key so i will have to think of somewhere she can leave it. In a shop or something.
What do you mean by reaching out? Getting scared?