Me and my ex have been on and off for 3 years. We never truly got to experience a breakup because we still always spoke to eachother everyday after we broke up ‘as friends’. I’d see him whilst not being together and you know how it goes. We’ve tried being in a relationship many times and the other day I made a rash decision in the heat of the moment to break up, he wasn’t agreeing with it at first. The next day, he agreed with it and said it was the best thing to do and we always let our emotions drag us back into the relationship rather than thinking with our heads. We still love eachother and care about eachother, none of us cheated or did anything horrible. The breakup has come as a shock as I thought he’d never go through with it seriously to the point of cut off. He mentioned that we should take time away to heal etc. He didn’t bring the topic up for a week but today I decided to say we need space to heal, sadly he agreed as much as he didn’t want to either. I don’t know where to go from here because before we stopped talking he clearly said to me a couple days ago, ‘ I made my mind up about the relationship, I’ve genuinely accepted it’s not right to just get back together when there is so many arguments’. Do you think there is a chance of us getting back together after this no contact or is he really done with me?
He might actually be done with this toxic relationship. Actually it’s the best for both of you.
On and off for 3 years and too many arguments is not a good sign! It seems you two are incompatible.