Also, I should add that his parents are coming to visit next month. I feel like once he tells them we broke up and they’re happy about it … my chances are done 
I hope the therapist can help you, but it takes time for the advice to sink in sometimes, at least that’s what I’ve heard. Don’t make assumptions about his parents visit. Try not to think negative and stay strong.
Today is day 9 and you’re doing great:)
Day 11 and I’m miserable and feel like I made no real progress.
I actually went on a date last night, and while the guy was fun, nice and attractive, all I could do was compare him to my ex. In ways, it just made me even more upset at the fact he’s not in my life. I never expected our relationship would end in such a way and I would give anything in the world just to go back and make things right.
How can you go back and make things right when the break up wasn’t your fault - it had to do with cultural difference and his wanting to please his parents.
Glad the date went well except for your thinking about your ex. That makes it rough for the other guy, maybe not giving him a chance…
Day 11 and going strong:) Not happy, but strong…
I feel like there were times where I pressured him to talk to them, I could have been more understanding. However, these are just things that were ultimately out of my control 
I’m sure he understands you pressured him because you love him so much… Don’t worry about it. Just stay no contact for now. Wishing you the best and hoping he contacts you soon:) Either before or maybe after his parents visit.
Hi, how are you doing? Has he contacted you yet?
It’s been 2 weeks and hope you’re feeling better…
Hey Patricia,
Thanks for checking in on me! Yes, it’s been two weeks, and I haven’t heard from him at all :(. I don’t think I’m feeling any better, to be honest. Every day that passes that we don’t speak makes it more and more real that it’s over, if that makes sense at all.
I’m starting to think having any sort of hope is damaging, but I’m still putting positive vibes out there, and showing through social media that I’m still living.
I really love him, and hope in time he realizes. I’m just not sure he will :'(.
I know the unknown is scary. Hang in there for now… I think his heart will eventually win out over his logic.
Thank you, Patricia. I hope so, too. I’ve been through breakups before, but this is the hardest of all. In my heart, I know this isn’t something he wants, I’m not kidding myself with that. I’m just scared him seeing his parents will be enough for him to be really OK with his decision. I don’t even know what to do.
Also, I should add that I deleted him off social media shortly after we broke up.
One of his cousins from Iran is still friends with me on Facebook, and always likes my pictures. I now noticed that HE deleted HER as a friend. Is this because I was probably popping up on his feed? Is this even a good sign?
Also, today I’m officially half way through NC. Can’t say I feel better, I actually think I feel worse.
I don’t know why he deleted his cousin on Facebook. Try not to pay any attention to that stuff… I understand no contact is difficult, but hang in there and congrats on staying strong! Do you know exactly when his parents will be visiting him?
I spoke with my therapist more about it today and she agrees contacting him now would serve no purpose, I’d just be repeating myself and it’s all on him. She believes he probably has some deeper issues, besides his parents, that made him do this, and they probably have nothing to do with me.
She thinks I need to just focus on being happy and moving forward. Sadly, I’d do anything to have him back in my life.
I’m not sure when exactly his parents are coming, probably within the next 1-2 weeks.
Thanks for all the support 
Gosh, I wonder what those deeper issues might be ~ do you have any idea?
I still have a glimmer of hope and I bet you do too. Yes, focus on being as happy as you can without him for now. Nobody knows what will happen in the future.
Please post if anything new happens or if he gets in touch with you.
Take good care of yourself and God Bless you always…
I’ve been replaying our relationship in my mind, see what mistakes I made. I’m definitely not perfect, but nothing I did could have spawned this. I honestly think it was a combo of his stressful job (it was his first year in residency), combined with fighting with me and his parents over our relationship.
I do have a lot of hope to be honest, I just don’t want to get them up so high and end up more devastated than I already am.
Also, from like May-June, I was very absent a lot of the times, as my aunt was getting sicker and I wanted to go home every weekend to see her. I could have done a better job of making time for him. But he knows how much I love him. I just want to go over to his place and yell at him
Don’t do anything rash or foolish. I’m sure he understood you wanted to spend time with your aunt. The therapist alluded to other deeper issues that have nothing to do with you or your relationship. That’s what I was referring to by asking if you had any idea about them.
Honestly, I have no idea and probably never will. I just never realized how much I really wanted to spend my life with him until he’s no longer here.
The only thing I can think may be causing all this is his job.
I’m on Day 18 of NC and I’m pretty sure his parents are coming next week. I wrote a very heartfelt letter (my therapist said it would help) and didn’t intend on sending it. But now I think this is my last shot and I have nothing to lose.
What does everyone think?