Thanks for encouraging me 
I know I have to focus on myself but I cant stop thinking about him.
And yes, I ll get back with him only when he begs me to.
I dont want to be his doormat.
Exactly, donât be his doormat. You deserve better than that. Work on yourself and your self esteemâŚTry to get to a point where you are fine without him and you accept the breakup. Follow the stepsâŚ
Itâs hard to not think about them, I think about him constantly, but try to focus on other things to distract yourself.
Donât take less than you deserve.i know how hard it is to forget someone cause everything you do and think reminds of him but thatâs completely normal just donât let your mind trick you. Make a plan, put up notes on your room reminding the best stuff and gone were you when you guys didnât have anything. Look at yourself in the mirror and appreciate the things you know no one else has and think that the one who makes yourself happy is only you! You have a whole future ahead of you, and itâs hard to believe but just think about this really cute guy that is crazy for you and say you are pretty everyday. Just picture how this is possible and you wonât get hurt by mean stuff and lack of respect(: he screwed up, not you. Another thing to help you forget him is studying and working, watch a funny movie that doesnât have to do with love or maybe a thriller. Set goals to accomplish during the NC. Like not stalking him, and reward yourself with something like, I wonât stalk him for 20 days and then if you accomplish it you give it a quick look at his fb, Twitter or whatever. And then start out again. Just assume control of yourself. You are strong enough to do it
Divjun,
I think you have to be patient here. He told you that he still loves you, and that he canât live without you. Just wait a little bit for the water to clear out.
Mike- cerati
@travelbug , @laurais and @mike
Thanks for your response
Yes, I will try to focus on myself and I will tty not to stalk him more.
Btw he deactivated his fb account last week and doesnât use anyother social site.
He uses just an app to talk. I have deleted that app so that he couldnât contact me there.
Day 7 of nc (second round) just started.
Again he didnt try to contact me.
I spent my day with family and slept like a baby.
I donât know why but I always check my phone expecting his call/msg.
sigh
I hope he contacts soon:)
Donât wait for it. You are going to drive yourself crazy. Get busy, do something new, concentrate your time and energy on something positive for yourself. Take this time to better yourself.
Divjun,
I know what youâre going through, and I am learning that we have to learn not to expect anything from them. We can try to make ourselves better human beings, and learn from our mistakes. And if they truly give us another chance, we have to take it seriously, and recognize the bad behaviors and put them in the thrash. Thatâs only if they truly want to give it another chance. And i deeply wish this is your case!
Yes, I ll work on myself and maybe plan an outing with friends.
@mike thanks for your response.
I hope for the best. Fingers crossed.
But why isnât he talking to me when he is the one who was at fault. He lied to me. I know he loves me and was frustrated but its been more than a month when we broke up.
Divjun,
There is always two persons in a relationship, and if the two persons dont work together, the relationship fails. Maybe as you said he is at fault, but we gotta take responsibility for our actions. What happened? What did I do to contribute to this break up? How could i handle it in a better way?
You have at least heard from him, and heâs told you that he still loves you, and thatâs great news because you at least have that information to keep your hopes up. Itâs just a matter of patience, and both of you taking the responsibility of your actions in a mature way, so you guys can get back together and enjoy a healthy relationship.
I wish I knew from my exgirlfriend.
Best of luck!!!
Mike,
Yeah I know what I did wrong and I have learned from it. I couldâve handled it in a better way and couldâve avoided so many fights prior to our break up. But everything happens for a reason. I hope he learns from his mistake too and take responsibility of his actions.
And hey I did NC for 26 days and then again im on day 7 of 2nd NC, dont lose your hope.
He started contacting me at the end of 3rd week of NC.
Divjun,
Youâre one step closer to a reconciliation, he just has to clear his mind and accept what he did wrong. And not only that, he has to be eilling to change that so he can be with you. Same with you. But youâre on the right path
Thanks mike, I am really feeling better after reading your views. I hope it happens soon. Fingers crossed
End of day 7 :-
Didnât hear from him again!!
sigh
Feeling very low today.
I donât know why he is holding himself back. I know he loves me and is not with anyone else but donât know whats wrong.
There was not a single day when we didnât talk to eachother for 3 years. And now, its been more than a month since we broke up.
If he misses me (like he said a week before) then why isnât he texting or calling me. 
Dont feel down because you did not hear from him. Just because you dont hear anything, it doesnt mean there is nothing going on. Keep up the NC. Make him think, make him wonder.
It is a very ggod sign that he said he still loves you, and you have taken your part of the blame for the breakup and worked on it.
There isnt much you can do for now than be strong and keep the NC.
Remeber to update your facebook with interresting suff you are doing.
Ex: Check in at a resturant on FB with the text âwow this place is really amazing, you guys need to try thisâ or something like that. But do NOT show who you are there with. It is a good way to make your ex wonder. âIs it a date? is it a friend ectâ
Hey creed,
Thanks for the response.
I messed it up by telling him what I feel for him. And I guess it just pushed him away. Away in the sense he is not trying to talk to me or something like that. Now he is sure that he can have me whenever he feels right.
I know he loves me but heâs not doing anything about it.
Well, I donât use FB or any other social network.
He too deactivated his FB account 2 weeks ago.
I just cant spend a day without thinking about him. I really miss him alot.
Sorry to hear that. But in this case I am sure NC will send a strong statement. IF he tries to reach out again: Ignore him!
I started using Tinder in my first 2 weeks of NC. Just to get some dates and to get out. It helps a lot when you are out and meeting new interresting people. And it makes the NC a lot easier⌠Just a suggestion
Divjun, definitely do nc until he contacts you. I think you should do more than thirty days if he doesnât contact you. You have to give him time to forget that he can easily have you and only time will teach him that when he doesnât hear anything from you. Focus on yourself, like creed said, go on some dates just to get out there. Might be refreshing and a great distraction.
@creed and travelbugâŚyeah Iâm definitely going to ignore him. And he knows that very well than I wont reply to any of his text.
It hurts that he said he still loves me a week ago and is not contacting me again. He said he canât live without me and still he is actually living without me. All his actions contradict his words.
But I honestly donât wanna go on dates. It doesnât give a nice impression in my society if I start dating again.
He too is not seeing anyone. He knows he still canât date. Last time we talked he told me that nothing can separate us and he asked me to marry him again.
It doesnât seen like a break up to me. I really donât know.
His friends say that real him is back again. He is no more frustrated. Spends his day playing PS only. And he is not going to the gym from past 5 days.
But on the other hand they say he is fine and doesnât seen to be depressed. I reqlly donât know whats going on in my life!!!
We broke up on 3rd september. Then talked on 28th september on our 3 year anniversary and havenât heard from him since.