Hi everyone,
I wanna tell you my own story. It’s all about my fault. After all, I firmly believe that my boyfriend is that person whom I was totally lucky to have but I am kind of person who needs everything, I mean I always change his personality traits, change his habit, most of thing he said… I used to thought that his love is not much enough for me although I love him so so much.
We have long distance relationship but it doesn’t matter with us, he came to visit me once a month (we stay in 2 different countries, he stays in my hometown I study in another country, it takes a 4 hours flight to see each other).
We also have our plans for our future where we will be together after i finish my course.
One month ago, I said I want to break up. Then, I am upset, I fell I cannot live without him, I come back my hometown to see him, convince him and tell him I will change, I won’t ask him to change everything. We had sex together. I thought everything was better. But then, We fight again at the last day I was in my hometown (with him) because of the same fault of mine. He told me that he cannot be my boyfriend at all, the love for me inside him is death, he means it is spend all after all. He want to be my friend, he need more time, more space to be peace and he don’t think i totally change like the way i said. He want us to build gradually and slowly.
Now, I come back to school and next week (after 15 days since we fight again) I will come back my hometown. I don’t know whether I should see him or I should contact and see him on June when I have summer holiday and I will have 2 months break in my hometown (I also use NC rule for this time, just 15 days total until the day I come back my hometown this time)?
I really love him and I look at myself, I regret so much.
I need your advice. Please help me. I know axactly I love him
Continue no contact and make the changes in yourself that are needed. Contact him in June to let him know how you’ve improved. Never try to change a guy’s personality! Either accept him the way he is or find someone who meets your criteria.