@AssassinK My gosh, you sounded like you’re talking with a buddy. You should have said “I would enjoy going for coffee or a walk after the quarantine is over”. When she asked about your house, you should have gone into more detail. You could have told her you miss her.
I think you were too casual. You should have showed more feeling and emotion.
@patricia12
Haha, yeah the thing is i dont wanna show i miss her, maybe thats wrong, i dont know, you guys said its not good to mention the past, i dont know really, maybe its ok to be like a little bit cold, i am losing hope, what should i do now, i am devasted and i cant think clearly
@patricia12
Can i fix this?
Maybe to text her in a few days before the quarentine ends that i miss her
@AssassinK NO, it is not good to be cold!! She broke up with you because you were cold… You need to show her you can be sweet and caring.
Where are you and when does your quarantine end?
@AssassinK I’m in the United States. It will take many weeks if not months for our country to open up…
What country are you in?
@patricia12
I am in Irelnad, they said till 5.5., if the situation will be better they will open, they will probably end the quarentine
Ok, friendly, cool, not cold, not to mention the past, just my feelings like i carry about her continue, right?
What about that what i say, maybe to text her again and be nicer and show that i miss her? If yes you can write an example, like i said, i am not feeling good and i cant even think what to text, what to say
@AssassinK You wrote:“– in the last conversation, she said that she still loves me, that she misses me and that she misses all our things and that she has to think about herself right now and that she wants to be a friend and that I can always call her for coffee or a walk” She wrote that she still loves you and misses you! She had a month to herself with nothing from you except the Happy Birthday text on April 5th. Then she sent Happy Easter on April 12th. After that you sent a casual cold text. She probably thinks you don’t care enough about her and that’s why she said she wants to be a friend.
You wrote:“– the current situation is very difficult for me, I wonder if she’s thinking about me and if she might want to reconnect and she doesn’t know how because I told her that once I break up, I don’t want to go back.” I think she might want to reconnect, but she wants romance and affection! I suggest you start by being more romantic when you contact her. Do you two just text or is it possible you could call her on the phone??
When you text or call, use her name (not Hey). If you ever used terms of endearment, like honey, baby, sweetie etc… start using those kind of words again. By the way, women in relationships want to hear I LOVE YOU often! They also want compliments occasionally! You say you’re devastated by the breakup. At some point you should tell her that and you need to tell her you will do anything to get her back! You need to tell her that you would like to work things out with her and have a conversation with her about it. Ask what changes she wants you to make and make them. You two could have a discussion about what went wrong and what both of you will do to fix it…
But for now, start out slowly… say; Hi (her name), I would very much enjoy going for coffee or a walk with you when the quarantine is over. I’ve been thinking about you a lot since we parted! I love and miss you too… Take good care of yourself. Love, (your name)
@AssassinK PS: At the end you could change it to say “Take care of yourself and stay safe”.
Also, instead of Love and your name… just your name.
The conversation where she said that she still loves me and misses me, that was in real, so we spoke, no texts or calls, that was when i was in her house.
Before that conversation when she broke up in the house i tried everything, i told her that i will do everything, i love her, bla bla, i wanna change myself, “then” she said she want to be friends, she said as well why are you guys wanna take the stars after you realize when you lose something, so i show her then that i care a lot and other things, should i text or call her one more time before the quarentine ends and tell her about things that i wanna change, that i miss her and love her and other stuff or should i wait for the coffee (the problem is maybe she will not contact me for the coffee beacuse it will take too much time till then, maybe she will be colder)?
After the break up, i put my nickname to I Love You! so everytime when i text her she will see instead my nickname I Love You!
3 days ago she removed on her facebook profile “in a relationship”
She still have our pictures
And yesterday when i texted her, she changed the I Love You! to my name, why did she do that all?
Few days ago, i was in contact with her mom, she said to her mom its weird without me, because we lived 3 years together, what means that?
@AssassinK By the way you write, I don’t think English is your native language? Have you been apart for a month?
Yes, I think you should text her (maybe with the sample I gave you) sometime soon with a very sweet loving text as it might be weeks or months before the quarantine ends. The reason I suggest text is because you can take time to think about what you want to write and make it as sweet and sincere as you can… OR if you think she would respond better if you call her on the phone, then call her and tell her how you feel, but don’t beg for reconciliation.
If you used to call her honey (or sweetie etc.), maybe put that in the text somewhere. You should definitely start it with her name and end it with your name.
Depending on how she responds to your text, you could call or text her sometime later after that and calmly talk about things you will change.
Of course it’s weird without you being in the house with her. She was used to having you there.
IE: Did you move out a month ago? When did you move out?
@patricia12
Its not my native language, i apologize about that
I moved out on 28.3., so we are not a full month apart, 20 days
Is it ok to text her tommorow? Because i texted her yesterday
Maybe i can fix my cold message and say i was in a rush
Can you just go back to my last post and see about the facebook and my nickname, i dont know if it means something bad
Thank you very much for your time and patience Patrica!
But the break up was arround 10.-15.03.
@AssassinK Only she knows why she changed her Facebook status and your nickname. But it might be her way to express confidence about her decision to breakup. I don’t understand a nickname being I Love you! ?? A nickname is usually a shorter version of a first name such as Thomas to Tom, etc… I love you is something to write in a message or say to express love verbally.
Maybe text her Monday or Tuesday.
@patricia12 ok, lets forget the nickname, if you say thats her way to express confidence about her decision to breakup thats not good then
@AssassinK Actually she is the only one who knows why she changed her Facebook status. Don’t let that discourage you from sending a loving text! You two were together 3 years, so undoubtedly she still has some emotional attachment to you:) Good luck…
@patricia12
Ok, thanks a lot, when i text her and see the situation, i will leave her what happened and see if i need still help
@patricia12
I texted her
Sweetie, I’ve been thinking a lot about you since we split up!
I love you and i miss you. Take care of yourself!
Love
She texted back
Thanks, you take care as well
Opinion?
@AssassinK Good! You showed your care/concern for her and also included some very sweet affectionate emotion. I’m sure she appreciated it and her response sounds okay to me:)
But you didn’t write “I would very much enjoy going for coffee or a walk with you when the quarantine is over”.
Maybe text again in a week to ask how she is doing and include the part about the coffee/walk.