I was seeing someone for about 3-4 months but she would not give me the title of her “girlfriend” which caused issues in the relationship because I felt that meant we were just casual and that she could be seeing other people which she informed me was not true. However my overthinking and skepticism lead us to end things a couple of times. The longest was for a week where I did not contact her but she would reach out and tell me she missed me and wanted to talk when she got back in a week. Once she came back we spent two nights together as if nothing had happened between us and we were back to “normal” she also told me she loved me during this time. However that weekend she had another girl come down from California that had been here to see her before and stayed the night with her and she never mentioned her nor did she contact me the whole time she was here so I ended things and we decided to just be friends but when we tried to hangout as friends it was awkward and she told me she loved me and wanted to cuddle but didn’t want to complicate things and that she was sad and it was hard to see me. But then again the girl came down to see her after. I then found out she had been talking to another girl while seeing me and she then deleted me from all social media and ignored my attempts to talk to her, a week later she reached out asking to talk and it was as if she had already moved on since she has been posting pictures and hanging out with that girl even though they are long distance. I asked her if she still had feelings for me and she said she just felt like we were in different places and that she still kind of had feelings for me. Is their any chance I can still get her back if she’s moved on and seems happy with this girl?
@Twister - She seems very confused and conflicted. Since you were NOT in an exclusive relationship, both of you were free to date others with no need for explanation. And three or four months isn’t very long to get to know someone. Were there other problems other than your jealousy? It seems you pushed at her to have a relationship when she wasn’t ready. Too much pushing and jealousy of course would cause too much drama and problems. Nobody knows if you have a chance to date her again and nobody can say if she would ever want to be in a relationship with you!
Her saying you are in different places and she still “kind of had feelings” for you doesn’t sound too good, but who knows. Trying to be friends will hurt you if you can’t handle the possibility that she would want a relationship with someone else. And in trying to be friends, I have an idea that you will probably end up quizzing her about feelings again which will drive her further away.
The best you can do at this point is to back off and try no contact for at least a month and don’t stalk her social media. If you two talk again, do not act jealous or ask about the other girl. Don’t “cuddle” again, but if she wants to see you, go out and have lots of fun WITHOUT pressuring her about her feelings! People usually end up with whoever makes them the happiest…