My situation is as follows:
My girlfriend broke up with me at the beginning of February this year. Since then I only saw her the following weekend. And only then I discovered your site. Since that weekend I have not spoken to her. She tried to phone me once, which I did not answer. She send me a text message about a week ago, asking how am I doing? I told her I was doing very good, work keeping me busy and so forth. She later replied and asked if I wanted to meet up with her the next weekend. I ignored the 2nd text for a 4/5 days. After which I though that the 21 day no contact was over (even though I did send that one message). What was so difficult was the timing, because I did not get to the part where I am suppose to send her a message and then some more and work myself to a phone call and then the date. I agreed to the meet up and everything went well. I was as calm as you can get, even though I wanted to kiss her at certain points. But I remained calm and relax. Did not mention anything about the relationship. Just had some lunch and a friendly chat. When it was time to say goodbye, she asked me whether she has to contact me or am I going to contact me if we wanted to hang out again. I just replied, lets see what the future holds. I could see she was not very happy with my response. And she actually started crying. I gave her a hug and told her she must take care of herself. So basically I need your opinion on what to do next or where do I go from here? I do think that I surprised her with the way I reacted during our meeting, because I was not emotional or nervous, just tried to make her laugh a lot. I would really appreciate it if you could give me some advice as to where to go from here?
I think you are going great! Do some more no contact. How long were you together and why did you broke up?
Sounds like you’re right on track to me. You did good by not rushing it and remaining casual sounding, definitely came off as strong and confident. Keep doing the same, now you can probably reply if she contacts you but do not get too talkative yet. Maybe give it a few weeks or so then try and meet up again, I’d say definitely not too soon(a week or less). Since its is still a somewhat recent breakup moving too fast can bring up old hurt feelings. But good job I always enjoy hearing good news for people on these boards.