Yeah definitely. Like I said, my ex did it after a week. Hated him for it at the time but it’s been the best thing he’s done. I couldn’t stop myself from looking on his facebook allllll the time. Seeing how many girls were liking his stuff. I was driving myself insane. And he was using it to try and make me jealous all the time. There was one girl we had a problem with when we were together, as soon as he breaks up with me, he’s putting up pictures and you can see he is messaging her. He did it to hurt me. So I’m glad he deleted me from facebook so I didn’t have to see anymore.
Well i hope she didnt do it cause she thinks i was stalking her lol. It wasnt that at all. I havent liked one thing on either site and then i like 1 thing she likes on a random page too and she does this, so thats why im worrying cause i dont wanna lose any progress with her. ya know?
Yeah I know what you mean. Mine was the same. I didn’t like anything, wasn’t putting anything on my facebook, nothing on his. I got drunk, I liked ONE picture he put up (it was a funny one) and then the next morning he deletes me and tells me that it’s because he thinks me not seeing his stuff is good for me. He was right but it’s a crap reason to delete me lol.
Yep it is. I hope me and her can reconcile one day. I really saw her as the one forever. Dont think ill be able to get close to another person for a long time. Been with plenty of women in my day but she was really the only girl i brought home to mom and dad. I felt inside that she was the one
I know the feeling hun. I felt the same about my one. And all my family thought it too. fundamentally there was nothing wrong in our relationship. I was suffering depression and didn’t realise, and it broke down the relationship because I was just irritated all the time. That’s all that happened. He claimed he wasn’t in love with me anymore, I don’t blame him. And we broke up. I’m not 100% sure we will get back together, in fact I’m not even 20% sure lol. BUT I have been making the most of my NC and getting myself together. Counselling, gym, eating, going out. And I feel a lot better for it. Icing on the cake would be if we got back together, but I am not going to rush anything to make him feel pressured.
See its the other way around. I always happy go lucky and i get along with people all the time. My gf was more like you. She was always depressed, angry, was taking meds and stuff. I always made her smile tho. Yea we had fights about stupid stuff but still. Whats your take on that @KD1988?
Well being on the other side of it like your gf, I didn’t realise at the time what was wrong with me. I had taken some medication that hadn’t agreed with me, and then it just spiralled from there even after I stopped taking it. MY ex was really supportive at first, but he just lost interest in me, didn’t find me attractive anymore and I don’t blame him one bit. I think eventually it just caught up on him and he just gave up on me. He apologised for not being able to try harder with me, which made me feel even worse. Like I was a massive burden on him. It’s only when he ended it that I realised how bad I had got and wanted to sort myself out. I started NC and have made some real positive changes and progress. If she is anything like me, then time away will make her realise something similar, and she may be sorting herself out too. If she hasn’t realised how she is feeling, then it’s hard to help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
Exactly! Im afraid of that. I hope she takes this time to realize this. Probally not but still. And if we are not going to get back together right now or ever and we talk, i think i should say something about it. She knows what meds she takes, she knows that drinking with them is terrible, but she does it anyway. She has been the same girl since i met her. She truly does not want to help herself. I just hope she opes her eyes before its to late. @KD1988
I would of loved to be there to hold her hand along the way and support her, but she never took the steps. She only took the one step and broke up with me. If your not happy as a person, you cant be happy with someone else. I wish she could see that. I wasnt the problem, just like she said multiple times. I believe she needs to go to seek professinal help, but she wont. We talked about b4 in the realtionship, and 2 years later, she was still the same. The only reason i stayed with her is because i see potenial in her. She is a great person blinded by mixed emotions and medication. I hope she turns around and realizes that I wasnt the problem at all, but it was her that was the problem in our realtionship. She needs to do this for herself.
It’s really hard to make someone realise it or do something about it, they have to realise it themselves. My mum tried so hard and I ignored her. She has to want to do it.
I wish my boyfriend hadn’t given up on me.
@KD1988 i added more to the top comment. What did you do to fix your problem with depression and stuff?
I went straight to the doctors and got anti depressants. I’ve been depressed before so I should of seen the signs. I started going back to my exercise class. Surrounded myself with friends and family and have started seeing a counsellor. It’s really helped me!
See she has been on pills even before we started dating. I feel that the pills are not helping her anymore. That she needs to start weening off of them. She is too young to be on them. Plus she is a drinker. She isnt one to stop after 1 beer. The alcohol amplifies those pills like crazy. I believe thats the help she really needs. She is a beautiful girl inside and out and i feel that her medication is making her into an uglier person by the day. She has always been the same girl to me but over 2 years time, i have seen that her patience towards anything had become thinner and thinner. Very emotional girl. I just want to be there for her. I lost a close friend of mine to suicide because of pills like these. I saw him the day before he did it. Broke my heart. I just couldnt live with myself if she fell into the same fate.
Depends what pills she is taking. No one is in a position to say someone is too young to take them, everyone’s situation is different. They work wonders for me. I just don’t stay on them long. Sounds like she needs a councillor too. I’m not that much of a drinker, but I know drinking is a depressant, so she will just make herself feel worse. But I am not a doctor
No you are correct. She would become this mean person if she drank to much. Come to think of it. I think i know one of the reasons she left me. She used to sleepover every tuesday, thursday, saturday. Since we broke up, she has been at a bar every thursday getting drunk, actually almost everyday that she has the next day off she is at a bar. Usually she would be with me at home. I used to go with her but my new job(almost a year here now) i wake up at 530am. Cant be out late anymore on the weekdays. It seems that she drinks alot more because she doesnt have me anymore. If she broke up with me so she could do that crap more; thats just cruel to me, since i was always there for her. I treated her like royalty. Now that i remember, she was always so tired after work and fell right asleep at my house. Why all of a sudden she isnt tired anymore and is out till 3am?
Sounds like she is doing something to occupy her mind. doesn’t sound like a reason to break up with someone. She probably thinks she is helping herself but is making it worse. It’s a tough one
Yes it is. Why did i have to fall for a girl like this? lol We had it so good, why throw it away?
And we all know the bar scene eventually gets old. Shes only 22. She will learn that soon at the rate she is doing it. Who gives up a realtionship with a guy who has great benefits at work, good pay, always a good person, great family and home? It doesnt make sense
Being 22 you don’t tend to think of those things unfortunately, I rememeber it well lol.
I’m glad in a way my ex ended it, otherwise I would be still be stuck in a rut, I just lost him in the process
I know that sucks =( I wish that we both can have the ppl back in our lives. I hope that my ex finally figures out that the grass is only greener cause its fertilized with bull*hit lol That life with me is slowly fading away if she doesnt come to terms with herself.