So i mentioned in my other thread that my gf txted me last monday (8 days ago)(broken up for 17 days)(after i called her the day before and left a voicemail) “Im not ignoring you for any reason. I’m just not ready to talk. You didnt do anything wrong like i told you before so stop thinking that cus i dont want you to think that.” When i’m ready to talk, i’ll gladly reach out to you. i just cant right now" I simply replied, “Alright i understand”
What is your advice on this circumstance?
It sounds like she’s confused and needs some time to breathe. Give it sometime. Maybe she needs some time to think about everything. Maybe she feels overwhelmed. Only time will tell. In the meantime, you’ll just have to let time take its toll which is the hardest part. I’d do anything to get out of this depression and stop thinking about my ex. I can’t wait for my life to get back to normal :(. Hope things work out for you!
Thanks man for the advice. I believe the same thing. I think she just needs time to breathe even tho our realtionship was great. I strongly believe its the case of “grass being greener on the other side”
Here’s my story if you need better insight on what happen. Thanks @tg7188 and anyone else willing to share advice
https://www.forum.exbackpermanently.com/boards/topic/completely-need-help-any-advice-will-do/
@Jared I think you two are in a perfect position right now. She appears to be implementing NC on you, which means that she intends to get back together. However, if you try to contact her now, even one more breach could essentially mean the end of your relationship. Simply change a couple things in your life so that you feel better about yourself and wait for her to contact you. I would also say don’t apologize, since she seems to be irritated with you blaming yourself. Seems like girls tend to like confident guys more than apologetic ones - even though it would make sense to like someone willing to admit their own faults…
@tighem hmm that is a good point. She could be doing the same thing as me(us). Using NC to fix what was bothering her about our realtionship and maybe herself even tho i still really have no idea what went wrong with us. Thanks for that advice. It made me feel great in a way.
Ok so literally she just unfriended and unfollowed me on facebook and instagram. Please help !! After all this time she does it now?
That is weird… Do you have any idea as to why she would do it? Is it to grab your attention maybe?
Well i was on instagram and i liked something she liked on some random following. I thought it was funny. Then all of a sudden i was unfollowed and unfriended
I know it’s hard but try not to overthink it. It’s not gonna do you no good right now. And you haven been broken up for that long. Just two weeks. So a lot might change. Maybe you posted something on facebook or instagram that made her feel bad?
Could be. She prob just caught on that i was checking her stuff. I never liked anything or commented on her stuff. Just looked. I liked the same post as her and the started following that guy. It is one of those funny thread followings. She prob saw that i liked the same thing as her. So she caught on. If anything, this is good cause it will add to the mystery of what we are doing since neither of us can check anymore. She didnt block me on fb tho, just unfriended me.
Is this breaking NC tho?
Ive been so good. No contact at all with her. I hope i just didnt lose all my progress with her. PLease help @tighem @kaila
Anyone around to shed some light?
Not looking at each other’s social media is an important part of NC, so that you don’t keep obsessing over her. Whether that’s why she blocked you or not, it doesn’t count as breaking NC. There’s a good chance she didn’t even realize she might be looking at her stuff, and it’s just a coincidence that she blocked you now. Even if she does think you were looking, she doesn’t have any proof, just a guess. Just keep doing NC and wait for her to contact you.
Okay cool, thanks again @tighem. I was feeling so much better after 2 weeks last night and then this happens. I hope this doesnt hurt anything. I was basically looking at everyones feed on instagram and i saw that post under her feed on Instagram and so i liked it. She prob saw that it was around when she liked it too. (what are the odds she prob said) then i started following that thread of pics on Instagram. Right after that i noticed she unfriended me on Facebook and unfollowed me on Instagram. I just hope she didnt think i was stalking her or anything. It wasnt that. By the way, she didnt un friend any of my friends and didnt block me on fb. Could be that she justs wants that space. So no posts from either side come in for me or her to see from Facebook or instagram.
Anyone else have some insight on the situation?
Bump
Sometimes it’s just hard to see your ex on Facebook. I’ve thought about unfriending my ex. It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s trying to get rid of you. But trust me social media makes the healing process a lot harder. Maybe it’s best for the both of you. Keep up what you’re doing!
My ex deleted me off facebook a week after we broke up. Gave the reason that it was for my benefit bla bla. At first I was gutted. But it has definitely helped not being able to see who is liking his pics, when he’s on, what statuses he is putting up etc. I was obsessing over his facebook, and now I don’t have to worry about that and it was like a weight had been lifted
Yea see it hurts to see that we arent friends and stuff anymore but i understand that not seeing each others stuff is for the best. Plus if she wants to delete me off FB and instagram, she wouldnt of waited 20 days after, right? She would of did it already.