Me and my ex were together for 4years and we have have kid together and he nearly 2, he proposed in dec but in Jan he cheated on me but lied to me about why he broke up with me saying he was struggling to feel anything even for our own son. This girl he cheated with is pure evil but he out picture now I hope. My ex seems to be giving me mixed signals all the time, one day he want to know me the next he doesn’t. He has mental health issues, my heart and gut telling me he come back eventually, he not showing me any love or flirting etc. But he doing little things such as messaging me later in the evenings, recently he invited round his mums for dinner because he was having our son for the night and while he was at work he said oh might get me and our kid a pizza and I said oh I fancy Chinese… that night he suddenly brought us all chinese then I feel like he was watching me while playing with kids and he seemed the happiest he been, no flirting still. His mum said it where he feels so guilty for hurting me that he caht deal with his feelings for me… just waiting game but I’m going insane, he messaging other girls but struggling with it all. I have positive and negative but my negative thought keep getting to me…
Go with him for couples counseling.
I would but he not ready to admit he still has feelings for me
Ask him if wants to be a responsible father and go to counseling to resolve the problems. If he refuses, move on with your life the best you can and take good care of your son.
Just found out he got bpd
Borderline personality disorder is a serious mental problem. Try to move on.
I cant, i dont get it why was fine with me for 4 years and now all suddenly he trying to just deny his feelings for me
He cheated and doesn’t feel much for his son. He has a mental illness. You can’t change him. He needs professional therapy and maybe medications.
Stop obsessing about the past and decide what is best for you and your son now…