When my ex (my first and only true love) broke up with me, I came to this site and many other sites looking for answers to getting her back. None of it worked, and frankly, trying was a mistake in the first place because I realized she was not meant for me.
But that being said, I did more research then a doctorate student and experienced more than you can imagine to find answers to my problems. And I am here to share with you folks.
First and foremost, The “No-Contact” strategy, only works for women. In my observation of others and in my own experiences I’ve found that only about 20% of men are successful with this method while for ladies its about 50-70% effective. Why? The answers are simple.
1.Women move on faster than men (in most cases).
2.Men care about sex more than women, therefore they are more willing to go back to an ex, so they can get the sex back. Sorry, its not always about love.
3.Women often have a plan-b man to go to as a rebound, while men rarely do.
If you are a girl, you are very lucky, because you have a good chance of getting back together with your ex no matter what (unless you are crazy to him).
But if you are a guy there is a lot to take into consideration before you get your hopes up. Answer the following questions in your head
-Were you sexually active with your ex right before the breakup?
-Has she tried to contact you since you broke up?
-Do you know the reason you broke up?
-Did she cry during the breakup?
-Is this your first time breaking up with her?
Each question is worth 20% likelihood of getting her back, and the correct answer is yes to all of them. -20% for no. If your score is 60% or lower you, no contact will most likely not work.
Yes there are exceptions. But its all luck.
No contact is a hit or miss game for us guys, kind of like battleship. It won’t work all the time. In fact it will rarely work unless she truly shows signs that she misses you. Lets look at one main question. Has she contacted you during no contact? If, by the end of 30 days of no contact she hasn’t reached out to YOU, its not a good sign. But its not a complete loss either. Contact her RIGHT NOW if you want to take a chance at blowing things over, but if you want true advice keep reading.
As a man, you have to decide if getting back together with her is even the right thing to do. Think about all of the negative things about her you didn’t like. For example she cooked terrible food, or had despicable taste in music, or she was super controlling and never let you do anything outside the house. Just think of anything that annoyed you about her. If you couldn’t think of anything, or you still feel like getting her back keep reading, if not, there is your answer.
Now for the big advice…
Leave it, and mean it.
What do I mean by this? It means that you need to just move on with your life, while leaving the door open for your ex if she decides to come by. Delete her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, everything except for her number. Nothing will get your ex to wonder about you and miss you more than just disappearing from their life. Am i telling you to just erase her from your memory? No. But your “No-Contact” period needs to be a hell of a lot longer than 30 days. And by a lot longer I’m saying at least 3 months. Why? Because she needs to chase after you, not the other way around. If she truly cares about you, she will have contacted you by then. There is no doubt in my mind that she will. You just have to play the waiting game. And if she doesn’t, it just isn’t meant to be.
If at the end of 3 months you still feel you want to be with her, which you shouldn’t if you follow my steps coming up, go ahead and shoot her a text. But before you send her a text you should be mentally prepared to expect nothing. If you expect nothing and nothing happens, you won’t be disappointed, and if you expect nothing and something does happen, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
Your probably thinking, “Wow, all of this just to tell me to move on?”
Well yes and no.
Getting over someone and learning to live without them are completely different things. When someone you love dies, you never get over loving them, but you do learn to live without thinking about them all the time, and that brings me to my last bit of advice on how to do that.
How do you learn to live without your ex? A bunch of really simple steps really. And here is the list:
1:Have sex with someone else.
Well that escalated quickly. But really, having sex with someone else will do wonders when it comes to fading that feeling of want toward your ex.
2:Try new hobbies
Ever wanted to know how to skateboard or ride a dirtbike? Go out and try it! There’s nothing holding you back now, and it will make you feel awesome, just like the first time you rode a bike with no training wheels, and this will keep your ex off your mind.
3:Go out with friends
Movies, strip-club, music fest, hiking, camping. Name an activity and do it with your friends. One of the best ways to forget about your ex is to fill her place with your friends.
4:Go on vacation
Just choose a place and go there for a few days. Bring a friend, family member, perhaps even a new girl along with you.
5:Talk smack about your ex.
Yes, I know this sounds a bit counter intuitive since your ex probably means a lot to you but try thinking about something that pissed you off about her and let it out. Your feelings of want will turn into feelings of resentfulness, which will speed up the process of moving on and perhaps make you change your mind about wanting her back.
6:Work out.
Simple, go to the gym and try burning fat or bulking up. Not only will it raise your self esteem and confidence, but you also may find many attractive women at the gym that will take your ex away from your mind.
Ok guys, I know this was a long read and a few of you may even be appalled by my advice, but you need to trust me. You will be happy with or without your ex if you follow my advice.
If you have any questions or comments don’t hesitate to comment, and I’ll try to reply
Wish you the best of luck
Damonator
