@xicana17 Yes, you’re initiating too many texts and it seems so needy and desperate to do so. But I guess it’s okay if you just want to be friends. Next time ask him about a hangout…
@patricia12
Hi patricia,
We’ve been texting almost every day. And I’ve initiated to hangout but doesn’t seem like he’s eager to. So I’m not sure what to do at this point. I’m guessing just wait for him to initiate? But I have thought more about it and as much as I enjoyed talking with him as friends I want to know if there’s a chance of us starting over. I want to ask him but I also don’t want to ruin what we have now. Any suggestions?
I’ve been seeing my therapist but unfortunately she’s going to retire soon and I feel like I’ve only had small progress. The good thing is she’s going to find me a different therapist so I am happy about that.
On a decent day ask him “I would like to talk about us. Would you prefer to do so in person?”. If he doesn’t want to do it in person do it over a phone call or text.
Thank you @tanda I think I am going to do that! Not anytime soon but maybe in the next week or so.
@xicana17 Tanda had a good idea if you were trying to clear up feelings or negotiate a reconciliation, but he only offered friendship and you accepted, therefore, what more is there to talk about??
You say you two text everyday, but I have a feeling you’re the one initiating most of them. And you’re the one who suggested hanging out and he agreed, but hasn’t suggested anything and doesn’t seem eager to hang out with you. Apparently he cares about you, but he’s not in love with you. Sorry, I don’t remember how long you were in a relationship with him??
He didn’t contact you while you were doing no contact. But more recently, you’ve been chasing after him and in the past you’ve shown jealousy. He needs therapy for his depression, but you can’t force him to go.
I wish you could find a well adjusted normal nice guy! It would be good for you. How is your online dating going?
Glad your therapist is recommending another one…