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Whoa. I’m happy for you, sounds like everything is going good. I hope it goes this way 😀
Calm down please! There’s nothing you know about them being in a relationship. If there was solid evidence that this friendship might turn into something then you would be worried but right now you don’t even know if that girl is going to want to date your ex.
Maybe she doesn’t even want to date your ex. Her boyfriend was killed 2 months ago, so I doubt she will jump right into a relationship this soon after her loss. Also, there are always gonna be girls in his life, whether it’s this one or not. So just please relax, don’t freak out. Stop stalking your ex on Facebook, because it will only make you feel worse, which is the opposite goal of no contact. No contact is about gaining your confidence back, and healing from the break up. If you keep checking his Facebook page all the time, you won’t heal from the relationship and once you are talking to your ex this negative energy you have will reflect on it.
Please calm down, I’m sure there’s nothing to worry about.
Sometimes even if you don’t show any feelings, the other person knows that you still have feelings for her. For instance, if she dumped you even though you’re not together she will most likely think that you still have feelings for her. It’s been only a short amount of time by now.
Also, there’s no point of keeping your mind busy with the stuff you cannot know like the things going on your ex’s head. There’s no way you can know or change that right now, so focus on yourself.
And, read this article on texting your ex girlfriend.
First of all, no contact does not necessarily mean that your ex will contact you. Purpose of no contact is for you to focus on improving your self esteem and confidence. Also women have the mind set that a man would pursue them if they like them, so during your no contact it’s possible that she thought that you moved on as well.
On the other hand, it is possible that she might have moved on. If she knew you still had feelings for him, she might have decided to not to send you a happy birthday message because might have thought that you would take it in a wrong way?
Personally, I don’t send a birthday message to the guys that I don’t want to be involved with, or that I know the guy would take it as I still have feelings for him so I don’t.
I’m no expert here, these were just my assumptions. I hope things turn out the way you want them to.
@laur8907, I think you can tell whether he missed you or not from his texts when you bring up a fun memory that you guys had. You know, Rome was not built in a day so it may take a while for him to actually acknowledge his feelings and speak them out. Because men can have such pride in their actions that they don’t want to do anything inconsistent. Of course you know your ex better than I do so, trust your own instincts there.
About the “I’m sure I’ll see you around” thing, I think he means that you guys can still be friends even if you are not together which can result in you being the “plan B” of your ex, depending on the guys character. On the other hand, I think for your own sake it’s good that you guys have the chances to run into each other because, that might make him miss you more. If he just sees the gorgeous you all the time but you’re not together.
Recent confession that I got from a male friend of mine is that guys feel the “loss” or the “break up” much later than women do. We normally feel terrible right after but by a month or so we can pick up the pieces and move on. But this is totally opposite for guys. They feel relieved right after the break up but month(s) later they realize what they’ve lost. So I say there might be a chance that you ex missed you during your no contact. Additionally, I think your ex has a better chance of missing you because even if you were on a break, he knew that you’d be waiting for him but after breaking up officially you’re no longer his girlfriend.
Just stay positive and don’t freak out. Couples get back together all the time (even in abusive relationships)!
If you text him turn off your notifications or sth that you won’t be waiting around for his reply. I know this is a stressful thing to go through, please keep in mind that you can still find love even if you don’t get back together. I know this is very hard to hear, but at some point you have to be able to truly move on.Best of luck! Keep us posted please 🙂
I think the important thing here is for you to get in touch with him at a time he’s available. Text him during the weekend, or if you know his work schedule make sure that you text him at his after work hours. If you text him at a time where he can read and respond, it would be better. Otherwise if you text him while he is incredibly busy, he might read it but forget about it. Men can really focus at one thing at a time, they are not really multi task like we women are.
So my point is, make sure that you get in touch with him at a time when he’s most likely available.
There’s always gonna be stress in our lives, we live in the 21st century. Even if he’s free or his schedule is relaxed he can come up with an excuse if he wants to. I think it’s for the best that you should still contact him for your own good. If it doesn’t go well, you’ll be well off to your way. It’s better to know sooner than later–I know this is harsh. Additionally, it can be a relief for him during this stressful time to hear from you (depending on his feelings).
I’m no expert here, but if he tells you he needs more time just give him time and move on with your life like he’s never gonna come back. That will make you more attractive to him (I was like this when I was dating my ex that I want to get back, I had other options as well and did not really cling to him when we started to date).
Best of luck!
