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Hi Patricia,

I thought I’d read your post since you so kindly responded to mine. I noticed you posted this a few months ago though, how are things going now?

Someone once compared attraction to a kitchen sink and I’d like to share this analogy with you. When you start a relationship, it is safe to assume that both parties are attracted to each other. When you make each other happy, the attraction flows through with ease. However, when you make each other feel bad, the sink is clogged with negative feelings. The heavier the clog, the harder it is for the existing attraction of flow through.

So maybe the goal isn’t to create more spark, because I think the spark and the attraction is already there. You mentioned earlier that you’d said several things that deeply hurt him. I’m sure all of those hurtful things added up, which inevitably led to a ‘clogged sink’. Perhaps you could focus more on how you could keep chipping away at those negative emotions. Give him enough space to forget about those things you’d said. Soon enough, the attraction and spark that was already there will flow more freely and I’m sure he’ll feel it. You seem very kind and like you mean well, so I’m sure he recognizes that too.

Keep your head up.

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