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I was in a similar situation but I had to break NC around day 15. She had called, then text and I didn’t want to play games. I sent a response to her text but at day 33, I wrote a letter accepting the break up and she called. We talked, went well. I spaced out some texts every few days. Now here we are at 58 days post breakup and she is initiating texts to me, although she tells her friends “the breakup now was the right thing to do, and that it’s getting easier for her”. She’s still trying to keep in touch.
Keep at your NC for 30 days. If you don’t want to be a jerk, then text her but DONT bring up the Relationship.
You need to appear OKAY with it, even if you aren’t.
I’d send the letter if you want her back, it works. The next steps are equally important though. Now I’m stuck deepening our relationship via texts…Always.
WonderingSeems like it’s going well.
Keep going out and having fun. At least 3 more times.Don’t address the relationship until after the 3rd hangout. I think that should give you an answer. If she keeps saying yes to going out, and the intimacy is there, then address the break up and talk about creating A NEW Relationship. The old one is dead. There’s no getting it back.
You will start version 2.0 and it will be much stronger if you’ve both worked on yourselves during that time apart.
I think he’s lying about the accidental call.
He definitely wanted to talk, and now he’s scared to address it.Give it more time.
He will call again.
If not, send the letter in 2 more weeks time.60-90 days is the crucial time in getting an ex back.
I’m now at day 51 since the breakup. Sent the letter at day 32, and we talked day 33, and text on day 35 and 38. I text her and she went out of town, no response now 9 days and I’m not going to try again.Just hang in there.
He will be back.Great! My advice to you would be to text back in 20-30 minutes. “Hey _____, I saw your missed call, but I’m about to run into the movies with a friend (or just got out). Chat tomorrow.”
Ball is in his corner. You aren’t playing games per se.
If he wants to chat, he will try you again tomorrow 🙂
