[sxox19]

OMG I was in the same situation … my ex is not an emotional person due to childhood issues. he doesn’t express emotion and it caused me to be needy and he was afraid i will end up like my mother. also with living together he paid most of the bills, so he was stressed from that too. he said he lost feelings. he said he feels he is going back to his old “bachelor, skirt chasing ” ways, and that he cares about me and it is hard to let go but he does not want the responsibility of a relationship. he says he wants to be friends but near the end of the breakup he was mean to me and lashing out at me. so i went silent. i have been in NC for 3 weeks now.
maybe we can email each other? share our stories? i am friends with some of his friends so i have only hung out with his friends when he is not around. also with him working for me family… it is hard to maintain that “mystery” if he is always hearing what i am up to.

[sxox19]

So I hung out with some of our mutual friends, and he texted me saying he wouldn’t be comfortable with the idea but its my life and i can do whatever i want. he said that they are no longer his friends now, and to be careful because his friends are backstabbers
i just said okay i won’t hang out with them
so i have to start Nc again. but yesterday i decided to hang out with them again (including one of his best friends who my ex still is friends with) because i am not a doormat i can do what i want because he is just trying to manipulate me.
he never texted me about it but i heard from one of his friends that he texted “oh i didn’t know [name of his best friend] was there” but apparently he isn’t mad…..
i think I’m going to continue seeing our friends because i think he is just jealous that his friends like me and he can’t deal with that.

also,
he texted me again asking if i properly moved out all of my stuff because he is missing his hair buzzer.
i don’t want to break NC again so i am thinking of just getting my mom (who works with my ex) to give him the box when she sees him at work. and that she will text him saying i dropped off a box and she will give it to him ..and that she is sorry that i have been so busy and just need space.

thoughts/?

[sxox19]

Also, I am friends with some of his friends as he is friends / working with my step brother. Am I breaking the no contact rule by going out with his friends? I try not to speak of our relationship to his / my friends

[sxox19]

that is a great way to feel better, thank you 🙂

[sxox19]

thank you! i will keep you updated… it’s only been two full days of NC :/ the last message he sent me was in regards to moving out my fireproof safe he said “you probably could not carry the safe down yourself. did you want to come back at a later date?”

haven’t messaged him :/
I’m going to send my step brother in to get the safe, but of course, i can not contact my ex to tell him that.

we were together for 8 months but saw each other every day practically, we lived together… and have known each other for 5 years

[sxox19]

thank you, i just am having a hard time.
he never really expressed to me too much about his feelings towards me. i know i am good enough for him… but I just felt like it would be easier to move on if I knew if he still loved me.
i can’t help but telling myself “he will come back” “he will miss me” “he will marry me one day”.. i guess its a coping mechanism.. but it’s not good for me to think that!

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