[stix140791]

I think NCit is the best solution what so ever because in my case, my boyfriend is the showing off type and has a huge ego. Even if he stated that he will never chase a girl, he came after me and my nc ended after only 7 days.

Even if it s not the chasing type he will think it through. Is the best chance you ve got.
I blown mine with nc, we ve got back together but after 6 months later, things are rusty as hell..maybr

So my oppinion is that you should follow nc.is your best shot 😀

[stix140791]

Im desperate and confuse 🙁

[stix140791]

Please any opinion? ?

[stix140791]

If the three months were enaugh for him to get emotionally attached to you, and from what you are saying, he was, you still have a chance.
I think he is missing you, keep on with the NC . Even if it seems so, the better terms means a shorter period of NC.Remember what kevin stated in Nc section.
If the break up wasp particulary bad, the NC period could co up to 90 days. So if he doesn’t have negative feelings towards you, that s a sign you will be missed.
Don’t f**k up Nc, i did and i m in a worse situation, 6 months later…
I know it is incredible hard but you should keep it on.
After that a nice letter of apollogy might do the trick.

[stix140791]

think you are right guys – i got to break this pattern of dependency and mood shifts. It’s driving me crazy …

[stix140791]

Patricia you’re totally right, but those kind of things never happened before, and i blamed the situation, the hurt, the ego..

Actualy he is very changed, it wasn’t like that before. He was insecure and jelous but never mean, cruel and hurtful. I actually hope he would get over this phase. That’s why i’m still around. If the things go the way they were before i would be happy, we were good balanced together.

Given the situation, i’m not sure about NC…

[stix140791]

I have a very similar situation with what you’re going through.

And i tried the friendship thing and lead me to nowwhere. it become very addictive to at least speak once a day even if he’s dating other girls.
and is like a drug.

is like i’m his shoulder to cry,meanwhile he’s phisically with other girls.

is been 2 months i don’t know evem if Nc would still work.

MY ADVICE DON T DO THAT FRIENDSHIP MISTAKE- I WISH I VE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES RIGHT NOW.
KEEP A CLEAN NC PERIOD and if he s a “girl hunter” it will work even better.

he could havd annyone except for you- and it would trigger in his frontal cortex so many memories about you.

it is reversed psychology, apply it while it works.

[stix140791]

I don’t know maybe not guilt but a little dependency. He can t sleep until he talks to me or at least text me.
I admit i m no good either – i respond and tend to freak out when i don’t know he is ok- but i m not compulsory about it like he is.

is like he comes to take a little bit of a drug – but he hates the drug and still he wants it.that’s how he acts.

everyone around me tell s me Nc won’t work because already been 2 months and all it remaind is the dependency and the fact that i would cut it, will liberate him.

i don’ t want a relationship based only on addiction-but NC WOULD STILL WORK?
i m twisting and turning about this..

[stix140791]

Thanks a lot, Patricia12

I will take care, he is controlling indeed,mostly since things started going roughly between the two of us. He has a lot of childhood trauma and a very low selfesteem, hidden under a huge ego.
He is very bright,a doctor to be and we’ve both been models.
So no need for the insecurity.

I tried and in part i succeeded to get him to a counseillor but he soon relapsed.

Actually i m in a little bit of a dilema because when the other day i wanted to start NC – he said he’s around my house and if i d like to meet.

Actualy i said yes- we met about 5 minutes – he acted a little bit cold . Told me that he wanted to take me to a restaurant – and then said i m really ugly dressed and start critizing.

After that he told me that i m nice dressed. He brought me a wrist watch, altough the fact i told him not to bring me anything.

And after he just runed away like he was afraid of me.

should i try again the Nc even the given situation?

[stix140791]

Thank you One_Love

I never thought of asking a mutual friend to care for him and go out with him. The problem is we don’t have to many genuine friends left. Actualy we were so much publicly exposed when we’re togheter, many people actualy envied or even hated us, considering us too “showing off”; and the others we’re disappointed because they we’re neglected by us. on top of all that he’s picky with friends and he mostly call them aquaintaces rather than a few friends he would trust.
I ll try to find one person because the ideea sounds awesome to me.

[stix140791]

It’s maybe a phase that is she going through, maybe she thinks that a realtionship nearby would be better than a distance relationship, but from my POV -it’s work better for you if it is that way.
A rebound relationship with a lot of human interaction , will definetly trigger some “missing you” buttons heavily in her brain, especially if she’s the kind of person that needs space.

Meanwhile, peace

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