[Sofia1997]

If you can control yourself, accept it.
Enjoy his company but as soon as he want sex, explain him directly what you think about that topic.

[Sofia1997]

This is the commonly “hot and could phase”
It is actually a good sign.
The Idea is not to get into an argument if he shows you a cold shoulder and show him that he is safe around you when he is in a “good mood”

Hang in there!

[Sofia1997]

It seems that he had expectations how your relationship should work (due to his friends)
And maybe because his expectation of you two having sex again did not work, he is angry.

Is he really that kind of guy who would just answer you something that nice just to do you a favor, even though he had moved on?

It is your choice if you want to hang in there or not. After all, there is a risk and you should know yourself if you could handle a rejection or if you are willing to wait and fight for a long time.

Think about it but don’t push yourself. 🙂

[Sofia1997]

This sounds a bit like my situation…. He always cared for me, texted me, found excuses to be with me etc.

But since he started his physik studies, he changed. He never got time for me and seems uninterested…

How did your breakup went? Who broke up with whom? Why? How did you guys react? Maybe this is part of the reason for his current behaviour

[Sofia1997]

Oh this one is tricky… It is hard to know if he only wants you for sex now and has moved on or if he just hides his feelings with sex.

My intuition says to ask him, but my logical part of the brain says that he then might lie to you.

I once read something about this kind of issue. I said that you should act friendly and normal but under no circumstances sleep with him.

I must say, it is hard to say if you should move on…. Did you hear about “moving on without movin on”? It is about letting him go but if something between you two happens, you will take the chance.

Hope this helped you a bit…
keep me updated!

[Sofia1997]

Wait until you are in Mexico
Then text him about.. maybe what you just did that was interessting

Well he was the one who texted me a good night and because my phone went off I texted a “good morning” back at the next day. That’s how we texted again. And then I wanted to talk about it but he was distant and somehow angry…

I don’t think he will lose respect of you. He would have if you’ve had sex with him

[Sofia1997]

Don’t worry about your language, I’m from germany 😀

Don’t think about the “what if he never contact me again?”. Well then, you will be the one who contacts.
I think he might be angry at you (god knows why. My ex was mad at me too for saying I don’t want sex right now. But in the end he still somehow cared for me. I think there is somenting on men mind that this is a huge rejection.)

Yes, I think you should wait a few days for him to calm down.
Have a lot of fun in Mexico! Maybe you can text him a bit when you are there

[Sofia1997]

I am SO proud of you for not giving in the sex. It looks like everything went well (besides the last part but this is actually not bad)

I guess he’ll be pissed of and feel his ego attacked. Leave him be for 3-5 days so he can calm down. The next time this issue comes up, tell him that it would went too fast for you if you two have sex now again.
I guess you feel betrayed or think he might only wanted you for sex (I was in the same situation as you). But do not tell him that. Just say that you are not ready for sex right now.

I hope I could help 🙂

[Sofia1997]

If you still feel depressed, do not contact him
There’s this quote I like: “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

So asks yourself what went wrong during your healing progress.
On the outside you do all those things that makes you seem happy. But for being happy there is more than the “fake it until you make it”. You have to come to peace with yourself and your emotions.

You probably know that but do not know how, right?
For me meditation helped. Or make a list of things that makes you really happy and do them.

It is hard, I know, And maybe you need more time than others. If you need more help about that, just ask me 🙂

It is a great coinsidence that NC ends on his birthday. But a simple “happy birthday” won’t do it. Think of something interesting to add

I wish you good luck 🙂

[Sofia1997]

Try 30 days NC and really work on yourself to become healthier, emotional stable and happier.

To be honest, it does not look good for you. He said your personality does not fit and his new girl is the complete opposite of you. Try being okay with moving on

On the other side, you two had a really good time just before he broke up. Maybe there is a really little spark of hope. So if you still want to, go ahead

I wish you good luck 🙂

[Sofia1997]

It is not bad to contact him first. If you wait you’ll might be waiting forever
But do you feel miserable after NC? If so, than first work on yourself, your health and emotional stability.
But I am not sure if it’s good to immediately talk about your relationship. Start casual but interessting

I wish you good luck 🙂

[Sofia1997]

I think she is struggeling about her feelings. This is not a rare situation and also a critical one (I’ve been there and messed it up so I hope you’ll be better at this)

a big advice: do not ask her what she wants. Do not say something like she has to decide or how you feel like your ex is playing with you.

Get back in contact and make positive memorys. When she says she really likes you, be happy. When she says she does not want or is not sure weather she wants you back, be okay with it.
It is a struggle within herself and the only thing you can do is being emphatic and nice.

Good luck 🙂

[Sofia1997]

Hey

I think he is in the “I like her but not enough to be together with her”.
So it is still a work in progress

Actually, if he asks you about your relationship status, it means he is interested in you. It does not have to be a romantical interest, but it is a very good sign.

I think you should not give up.
BTW, I like your answer “I’m picky” 😉

I wouldn’t asume a full no contact. Maybe a little break of one week or so

But I see, that this topic is a bit older. So how is your situation now?

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